I feel funny posting here. wanted to introduce myself. (m/c ment)
I've been lurking here all week and a friend of mine suggested I seek some support... so I thought I would introduce myself. I had a very early miscarriage last weekend... I cant help but feel like I shouldnt even post here.. I was only about 5 weeks.. maybe a few days more. I've gotten to the point where I feel like no-one understands and that maybe what I am feeling is not normal. I thought I was doing ok... but this weekend I broke down again. I feel so insecure about myself ever since... I cant help but feel fragile and frail..mentally. I just want to dissapear. Im so afraid of falling into a depression and I really really dont want to. I really just dont know where to go from here. I feel so lost...........
Last edited by whawuzthat; 11-03-2008 at 08:52 AM.
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I am so sorry for your loss. No matter how early the loss, it is still a loss and you will still grieve! What you are feeling is completely normal and some days you will feel fine and other days you will feel like the world is going to end. Lots of hugs and tears for you!
I am so sorry for your loss. I know as soon as I found out I was pregnant I had hopes and plans, so a loss, no matter the time, is devastating. You are normal. I went through a period of being quite depressed, and I think a lot of that had everything to do with those around me not understanding. Honestly, I can say that this and the ttcal (trying to conceive after a loss) board helped pull me out. Recently my dh even said that he felt these boards were a huge help to me. I felt understood and validated. Hugs.
i just want to say that no matter how far along you are..a loss is a loss..and it's still a very very hard process....for me..it's been one month since my m/c and i'm dealing with my day to day things a little bit better..but i still have my emotional moments..and there are still times where it's really hard to get through....but we are here for you as a support....sending hugs and thoughts your way
As the pp's above have said, we grieve our baby no matter how far along we were. We bond with our little one as soon as we know we are pregnant, and then 'wham' -- it's so horrible, it feels so unfair -- and our hopes and dreams are taken from us too, along with our baby.
I'm glad you're here, because this board has helped me far more than anything else. The lovely community here provide support, caring and understanding.
We're all here for you, and we're going to help you through this.
I understand completely how you are feeling, and like you, I felt as if no one really understood and tried to make everything disapear. This board is an incredibly helpful and understanding place to be. A loss is hard no matter when. Even infertility or a visit from AF can feel as if you have had a loss. I hope that you are able to heal in your own way and in your own time. Big hugs!
Ditto what the other ladies said. It does not matter how far along you were. It was still a baby to you and always will be. It was a hope and a dream that was tragically taken away.
Do not allow others to tell you that you have no right to grieve b/c you were "only 5 weeks". Be kind to yourself.
People who have never experienced a loss and men who have never carried a baby often do not understand that we carry a baby with us for an entire preg and when we lose that baby we carry the loss in much the same way. I know for me that everytime I would go to the bathroom and see blood on the tissue it was a reminder...I mean I can't even go to the bathroom without being reminded of my loss. Sometimes people don't understand that.
I am so sorry for your loss. It doesn't matter when or how early your loss occured. Ever loss is terrible.
I think what you are going through is normal. Talk about your loss, your baby. It was real, the pregnancy and child. Make sure you let yourself feel. From experience you will go through a roller coaster of emotions. Let yourself. Some days you will feel like you are alright and others you will feel less then normal. This is all alright.
I hope in time you will find some peace again.