I need a hug!

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I need a hug!

I don't know which to feel more sad over, but I'm feeling so down right now and could really use a hug. I should be getting my "big" u/s this week. We're leaving Saturday to spend 2 weeks with our families and DH and I planned on telling our families the sex of our baby at Christmas. We lost that pregnancy. We conceived again in October and planned on telling our families at Christmas since I'd be in my 2nd trimester, well, needless to say, I've got nothing to share anymore Sad I'm just having a "feel sorry for myself" day I guess.


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I'm so sorry Amber! If I could, I would give you a great big hug! You've been through a lot. I can only imagine how hard this time of year is for you, especially having made specific plans to tell family. I hope you get to feeling better. Smile I too have been feeling a gamut of emotions lately (sadness, jealousy, frustration, impatience) and it's tough when people around you IRL don't understand. Hang in there hon!
I'll be thinking lots of good thoughts for you.

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I am so very sorry for your losses. The holidays don't make things easier at all. I can only imagine the difficulty of having plans of a "big reveal". There is no shame in a "feel sorry for me day". We all deserve them whenever we feel we need them. I have been having a whole lot of them lately. I pray that we all find peace throughout the holidays.


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Sending you a big hug!!!
I am having a tough time too. Family and friends don't understand and feel I should be over it be now. The holiday season is tough for all of us. Give yourself time to grieve if needed.


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:bighug: One Christmas a few years back I was gonna tell my dh's family that we were pregnant...would have been 14 or so wks...I ended up losing the baby Nov 21 (my moms birthday...never told her/anyone of my loss dates) Instead, my sil told family that she was pregnant, the same day I was suppose to...Christmas Eve...

Thinking of you...


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I am sorry that you have to deal with this, that any of us have to. But, I do want to send you a BIG HUG...hoping it will help somehow.


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I know how you feel... I should be having my 'big' u/s too. Tomorrow would have been halfway, 20 weeks... and the best christmas present I could have gotten.

...last year for christmas when DH asked me what I wanted all I could say was "I want my baby back." ...This year, I had really thought it was going to happen, having a new baby was the closest I'll ever get to having him back... now having them back. It isn't going to happen... I try to stay positive, 'maybe next year I'll be holding a baby in my arms... or tummy' Next christmas feels so far though...and its so hard to have hope when everything is going so wrong.

We know how much it hurts... ((Hugs)) to you during this very hard season.

Mommy to:
Liam-Due 6/10/07 lost at 12wks 2days
Alana-Due 5/8/08 lost at 9wks 2days

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Oh, Amber I am so sorry for your pain.
I was to be 18 weeks for Christmas. My dh whole family is getting together this year for the first time in forever and everyone was so excited to see us. I am dreading Friday when they all arrive. I just want to skip that part of Christmas. I know my sil is ttc now and I have such mixed feelings about the day when they call to say they are expecting. How can I be happy for them...but then again how can I not be happy for them??
We all need a little extra TLC in the next couple of weeks. I pray that we all find the comfort and peace we need to survive this holiday!
Sending ((((((((((HUGS))))))))))) all around!


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Thank you all so much for your kind words. I just think the holidays make things worse. No one knows we've been TTC or have had losses, so I know we're going to deal with the "when are you going to get pregnant!?" comments. Ugh. I'm so sorry that you all know what I'm feeling, but I'm so happy to have you all


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It is so unfair. I know how you feel. I think many of us are needing hugs these days.

Sending as many as you need:openarms:


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I am sorry that you are having such a tough time with the holidays. i hope that you will have some good news in the new year! you deserve it Amber! :bigarmhug:

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