I think it may be starting on its own (m/c ment) Update

15 posts / 0 new
Last post
Jennana1120's picture
Joined: 10/17/05
Posts: 40
I think it may be starting on its own (m/c ment) Update

Sorry maybe TMI

For about 4 ish days i would use the bathroom and there was light brownsih blood that was stringy, alot of tint to the paper and then a few strings that were darker if you understand what i am trying to explain. It was not consistant. Well, today it has been consistant and same brown tint, until this last time, the brown tint is getting red. Is this the start of the miscarriage that my body is doing on its own. dh is en route home, i hope he makes before if and when i have to go to the ER to get a d&c completed. I have very minor cramping, nothing worse then a period right now. If you can and feel comfortable sharing, can you relate to this? What do you think - will it get worse quickly (maybe depending on everyones body, every is different) will it become more painful? I havent brought myself to read some of the stories here yet, im sure this is explained in some of them, but at this time i am not ready.

Thanks girls for any imput it means alot!

Thanks girls for your thoughts and imput. I still have no pain, very dull back ache nothing that has stopped me in my tracks. I am still up cleaning and doing things to be done before dh gets here. I am bleeding bright red now, but honestly i just feel like i have my period. I'm definitly expecting it to get worse, i will dose up on some motrin 800 before bed and hope for the best. My fear is waking up in a pool of blood. I have super heavy maxi pads, that look like a diaper. I was thinking about depends, because i didnt know what the flow would be like.. :?

OneLuckyLady's picture
Joined: 04/12/07
Posts: 129

:bigarmhug:

I'm glad your DH is on his way home. The same day mine turned from brown to red was the same day I lost the baby. It took about 12 hours. The pain for me was the worst right before I passed several large clots. The cramps felt like severe cramps and I also had awful back pain. Like you said everyone is different. I have read some stories where women didn't have any pain. I'm so sorry you are going through this. PM me anytime.

Joined: 11/19/05
Posts: 456

Do you have strong pain medication that you can take now??

I agree with the pp. You will have a bit more warning..the strong lower back ache...That said, for me, typically I would lose the baby when what you have mentioned above, in the op, had started.

GRAPHIC: If this is the case. You may want to keep a plastic container near by...Some women like to bury their babies...I know I did (in a stone planters pot)

:comfort:

Marie

OneLuckyLady's picture
Joined: 04/12/07
Posts: 129

"mom@41" wrote:

GRAPHIC: If this is the case. You may want to keep a plastic container near by...Some women like to bury their babies...I know I did (in a stone planters pot)Marie

That is good advice. I wish I would have had the foresight. In the moment i was too distraught.

Uropachild's picture
Joined: 08/09/05
Posts: 1176

I am so sorry you are having to go through this sweetie.

I dont have any advice to give, but i wanted to send you some hugs.

:bighug: :bighug:

Sarah, www.sarah-chambers.co.uk
Co-Host of Pregnancy & Infant Loss Support

DS Zane born at 41.5 weeks by c-section.
Lost as a result of Vasa Praevia at one day old.
16 - 17 October 2006.

OneLuckyLady's picture
Joined: 04/12/07
Posts: 129

How are you doing today?

Jennana1120's picture
Joined: 10/17/05
Posts: 40

I am doing great today,thanks for asking.. i took the motrin before bed and slept very well. Still bleeding, but not a heavy flow. I even have alot of energy, this is all so weird to me. I just want to it be done and over with (that might sound bad) which for that to happen would be to ge the D&C, but i have to wait til dh is here.. any time now. And i think i am going to go to the ER to get it done, my doctor has been such a dink this whole time. HE said " a miscarriage is a part of life, it happens, get over it" UM... go to hell! Will most hospitals preform a d&c in the ER- or if i went in would they get it done, whether in the ER or sending me to the ob part and having an ob/gyn do it?

OneLuckyLady's picture
Joined: 04/12/07
Posts: 129

"Jennana1120" wrote:

HE said " a miscarriage is a part of life, it happens, get over it" UM... go to hell! Will most hospitals preform a d&c in the ER- or if i went in would they get it done, whether in the ER or sending me to the ob part and having an ob/gyn do it?

What?! GRRRRR...That makes me so mad. I'm not sure what the ER will do. I would suspect that they would ask you who your doctor is...

Uropachild's picture
Joined: 08/09/05
Posts: 1176

It doesnt sound bad that you want it to be over with. It must be a very painful experience in a lot of ways.

:bighug:

Sorry you have to deal with such a pratt of a doctor too. Miscarriages may be relatively common, but that doesnt mean it's not heartbreaking for those going through it!! Typical that it would be a man to say that. He'll never have to go through it. Twat!

SparkleMomma's picture
Joined: 04/24/02
Posts: 648

:bighug:

Just wanted you to know that I have been thinking of you a lot & I hope DH gets home soon :bighug:

Diane

Cali26's picture
Joined: 02/01/07
Posts: 1040

I am so sorry for your loss.

My m/c felt like a bad period. I had bad cramps and passed large clots. After 1 1/2 days of heavy bleeding off/on, I had another 1 1/2 days of light bleeding. I took Advil and it helped me sleep and rest. I, too, was anxious for the process to be over as I was seeking closure. I don't think it's a bad thing.

I'm not sure what the ER will/will not perform. I guess, depending on how much bleeding you've had, they may offer to do it or if they're like my RE, he said I needed to wait 2 weeks before going in for a D & C. Regardless, I hope they are able to accommodate what you need.

Lastly, my RE and NP also shared that there is a 20% chance for a m/c w/ any pregnancy. Even though that statistic is so high, they were still so super compassionate, understanding, and supportive of what DH and I were going through. Statistics are very non personal and are meaningless when considering that this is something happening to YOU in the here and now. I'm glad your DH is on his way home ~ rely upon each other to get through this together.

:bigarmhug::bigarmhug::bigarmhug:

aotus76's picture
Joined: 10/01/05
Posts: 170

:bighug:

I'm so sorry you're going through this. Hopefully, it will be over soon. Shame on that doctor for being such an a$$.

Joined: 03/16/15
Posts: 53852

Jennana1120

In reference to your question about performing the D & C in the ER . I have never heard of them doing it. They do it in the operating room and put you under with a OB/gyn as that is their "speciality". In my natural one they agve me 2 pills to take every 6 hours. Now can you go to the ER and asked them for the shot or the pill version? Just tell them I want to get this over with- with the pill/shot version you will be passing the little one a lot quicker than doing it your self. Oh when you there ask for stronger pain meds you are going to need it.

I have one other suggestion When I miscarried the natural way last July I used those depends underwear ( the disposable ones and put my pads on that) because this part gets incredibably messing and I dont think you want to ruin your underwear. When you m/c this way the bleeding is worse than your normal period.

As for the OB being a dink most are unfortunatley and they are trying to put the loss in simplest terms as they probably see 20+ a month and sadly they can be such a**es.

I am so glad DH gets to come home because I hate to says this the American Red Cross & any husbands command rarely and probably nevers lets the spouse come home for first trimester losses. :shock: Only in the event of a still 20+ weeks birth or a very bad birth that has complications for both mother & baby. My husband use to do this at our previous command. Just hold him tightlty when he comes home.

:openarms:

Jennana1120's picture
Joined: 10/17/05
Posts: 40

"MILITARYBABY" wrote:

I am so glad DH gets to come home because I hate to says this the American Red Cross & your husbands command rarely and probably nevers lets the spouse come home for first trimester losses. :shock: Only in the event of a still 20+ weeks birth or a very bad birth that has complications for both mother & baby. My husband use to do this at our previous command. Just hold him tightlty when he comes home.

:openarms:

Thanks for all your info! That is a big help. And you know i seriously never even thought to contact the redcross to get dh home. He brought it up. I figured I am a military wife, It is my job to be strong. The red cross actually di@ked us around. I just sent and email for some advice to his 1st Sgt.(3 kids no help while i recover or go for the d&c, was there someone from the frg who could help) It wasnt even the red crosses doing to get him home, we have lucked out to have a VERY family oriented command. I might hate the army as a whole, but these people in his unit are awesome! So, they have definitly given him 15 days uncharged EML, and if and when he does go back that leaves roughly 2- 2 1/2 weeks until they are home for good. I am sending a personal thank you letter to his command with some homemade baked goodies (that my husband will be baking he just doesnt know it yet Wink )

Thanks again for all the responses they mean alot to me. I am still hold together well.. i think in the next day or two when i have him here to lean on i will fall apart, then again maybe not.. i really have no idea.

Joined: 06/26/07
Posts: 17

I am so sorry for all you are going through, I'm so glad your DH is on his away, this has been scary enough to go through with my DH.
For me my m/c has been like a bad period the 1st 3 days I felt ok and then the cramping and bleeding got worse, yesterday when I thought I may need to go to the ER I passed what seemed to me to be our angel and the bleeding has lessened.

Lot's of Hugs to you I hope you our through the physical portion soon.

Julie