I don't know why this is bothering me. But one of the things I kept thinking about when I first found out I was pg was, oh, ok, I can't drink now over the holidays. and, well, now I can, which ... ok whatever, but I still wish I couldn't.
I know exactly what you mean. I had been planning a trip to New York with the "girls" of my family - my mom, my sister, my aunt, and 4 cousins for a couple of months before I found out I was pregnant. Then when I found out, it was the running joke that I was going to be the sober one trying to get 7 drunks back to the hotel. Unfortunately, I had a d&c for a blighted ovum three weeks before the trip. That first drink at dinner the first night went down pretty hard.
I also keep thinking about how everyone envied me because at the Thanksgiving and Christmas dinners, I was gonna be able to eat as much as I wanted and not have to worry about tight pants because I would be wearing maternity clothes. Now I guess I can't get away with that.
The biggest for me was sushi. I love sushi! Needless to say, the first time we went to get sushi (which was the day after we found out there was no baby and two days before the d&c), I started crying when they brought me the plate. The waiter thought he had done something wrong! I felt bad but couldn't help it.
Same here, know the feeling. I felt it every time I was able to do something that had been "forbidden". I missed my nausea, I missed my soreness and fatigue. I didn't WANT to be able to drink, eat soft cheeses, etc. As with everything else, hang in there, and let yourself grieve and heal over time. (((Hugs)))
I also totally understand. I recently lost my bean at 9 weeks (measures 8 weeks and 6 days) on october 18th (my DS's birthday) and only one week later my husband and I were to attend a beer tasting and I was going to be the designated driver (half the price). Well I got my ticket changed and i did indeed cry a lot because i'd much rather be sober and pregnant than tipsy and not. I am also in Milwaukee and I have a DS born in october 06. Please PM me or email me if you need to vent or anything... I'm probably just a few minutes away! (I hope that didn't sound weird)
I completely understand. We lost Damien July 31 and I didn't have a drink until a couple of weeks ago. I just kept thinking that I shouldn't be able to drink because I should be breastfeeding right now. I know that you can "pump and dump" but I have always just abstained until done with bf'ing. It is painful. It isn't fair. It sucks and the worst part is that we can't do a d@mn thing about it.
I can't help but feel the same way. I don't drink, but with my EDD in Dec I was suppose to be huge right now (thanksgiving) we weren't going to travel, just in case I went early. And now we are going 2 hours away to PA to visit grandparents. Its bittersweet, because I love and miss them but I would rather be big and uncomfortable counting down the days to deliver.
Its tough and I am hoping once the holiday season is over my healing will be complete.
I will always miss and love Rebecca but it is time for me to think of a future with my husband and possibly other children.
Best of luck today everybody. Thinking of you.
I know how you feel... I was supposed to be pg for my 21st birthday. I was actually looking forward to not drinking (a baby is way better than a night of getting sloshed).
Now I'll probably get too drunk since I'll be so sad...
Its so sad that we even have to think about these things.
I also dont drink, but I was supposed to be due end of May, so my baby would have been one month old for my birthday, and we would have spent my 21st birthday with a quiet family dinner at home with our bundle of joy. Now no doubt someone will want to throw me a big 21st party.....and I really dont want that.
I just hold on to the thought that hopefully I will be pregnant again by then, and I will have some joy to look forward to. But I was really looking forward to being a Mum before I turned 21. I know it must sound silly to most, to want a family so young. But I have wanted kids as long as I can remember, and with my condition I constantly feel like time is running out. And as we want losts of children the earlier I can start the better!!
Me too. I wish I would have had to say no to that glass of wine with Thanksgiving dinner. All those little things get to me, even being able to dye my hair again or taking a ibuprofen for a headache (I do still try to avoid those though)