I'm so sorry for you. I can't imagine having to see that after making such a terribly hard "choice". I am so thankful that I didn't have to make such a decision. It's amazing how people feel the need to judge a situation they will probably never have to bad luck to deal with on any personal level. My family (on my hubby's side) is always joining facebook groups and inviting me to join that are based around pro-life. Some of them are terrible, mean and hateful groups. It drives me nuts and I'm not going through what you are. Again, I'm so sorry.
I have had to make the same choice, I had an ectopic as well and I didn't want to terminate, but dying wasn't really an option either. I KWYM with that particular hurt & the way people only wnt to look at the termination, not the fact there wasn't really any logical choice.
I am so sorry you're dealing with this.
It is a horrible choice to have to make. It feels like I denied my baby that 30% chance at life. Yeah, I also denied to 20% chance that I would die, but sometimes it's difficult to see that. And having people marching around telling me that I killed my baby is not something I need, or any woman who has made the decision to terminate for whatever reason needs. I cannot imagine any woman has ever made the decision without going through a lot of hurt. There are times when there really is NO choice that makes any sense. I think people need to realize that before they judge, but there is no way for them to realize how much a "choice" can hurt unless they go through it themselves. Which is not something I would wish on any woman.
Honey, try to refocus your thinking. You did not kill you baby, you chose to save your life. I know it hurts when people say cruel things but they are just idiots in yhour situation would probably have chosen they same thing. Poeple talk all high and mighy until they are faced with the same situation. What would that mom do if her young daughter was standing in your shoes? My guess, is she would choose to save her daughter's life over the thought of making her go on with a pregnancy that would probably kill her. Hang in there!