Well today has been 17 months since my angel passed. I miss her so much. I have been having a hard month this past month and have been thinking about her so much. I can't believe it. We will be laying her headstone soon. We are finally able to afford it with the help of a local support group.
Last edited by tina_haley_n_beanz_mommy; 04-08-2008 at 06:02 PM.
I am so sorry for your losses. I'm glad you have written about it all here -- so honestly and bravely. Yeah, men do grieve differently. That's why I'm so glad we have this board -- we all understand, have all been there. And we care about you.
17 months, eh? Seems like forever... slowly, you will get better and find happiness again. You will always remember and love your angel babies dearly, but the stabbing pain will gradually go away leaving love and happiness.
Your living children are beautiful: you are very blessed to have them. Remember to hug them really tight -- I do with mine, and I am so grateful to have them -- grateful to them for having 'made it', you know? My aunt and uncle couldn't get pregnant at all -- so I remember to be thankful that I could. It helps me to be grateful for who and what I have, rather than focusing on who and what I don't have. That helps me maintain a better perspective on my losses, and on everything else that comes my way. I've writtent it here, because maybe it can help you too. I hope so.
I hope the pain goes away soon. Please keep writing in. We care about you.
Thanks for your reply. I am happy to know others know what I am feeling and what I am going through. We have endured alot since her passing and it seems as if my husband is becoming heartless. I reminded him of what yesterday was and he was like ok. That hurt so much. It feels as if I am the only one who really cared. I know its not the truth but he makes it seem that way.
So sorry that you're going through this. I sometimes feel the same way when my dh doesn't talk much about the m/c or what we are going to do with the baby's remains when they are sent back. He just kind of has his head in the sand sometimes, and I'm not going to discuss this stuff with my friends, so I feel particularly alone when this pops up. You really just have to chalk it up to how many men deal with things - they just shut up and tune things out. I have to admit sometimes I do that too, and it does make things easier. But every once in a while it's like the floodgates open and it allll comes out. I dont' think men have that.