I told myself that I would not dwell on my loss today because it just can't be healthy, but I have all these thoughts and feelings that I wanted to get out. I felt they might be best said here.
A year ago I got the horrible news that my LO was gone. I have done some reflections this past weekend and realised how much the experience has made me grow - both as a person, and a future mom. I am so happy to be expecting my little Scout and I know that would not be possible if our first child had made it. It's a bitter sweet feeling, really.
This past weekend, I overheard my DH talking to his friend who suffered a loss last week. "It's just something you and your wife have to get through together," he said. "Don't let anyone tell you how you should feel or what kind of time frame your feelings should be on. I'm here for you if you want to share anything, but I won't pry if you don't feel like talking." I wish someone had told me that last year. I teared up listening b/c DH is kind of a "man's man" and doesn't talk about feelings very often. He told me later that our friend had appologized for acting so callously when we had our loss. I didn't think he had been callous, just didn't have any concept of what we were going through.
Thank you to all of the ladies here who have helped me through this last year. It's been a rough one and I couldn't have made it through without you all. There is so much more that I would like to say, but I don't have the time or the words right now.
For all of us
I am so happy for you and your husband. I hope this little one brings you much deserved happiness. Keep us updated. You are in our thoughts
I'm so pleased you feel like you have a bright future now. That's awesome!
Your DH is so sweet to say that to someone. Most men just dont get what to do or say, so the fact that he is being there for someone else is wonderful. What a guy!
I am sorry for your loss.
What a wonderful thing for your DH to say. And I don't think you really know what to say or do or feel until--unfortunately--you experience for yourself.
I missed this yesterday, but still wanted to offer you a I know how bittersweet these milestones can be. What a great DH you have!
I am so sorry for your loss. What a wonderful man your husband is. I don't know how I will feel in a year. I know that at three months I still feel raw and shattered. Thank you for letting me know that there is hope. I wish you a quick, easy, successful birth with your Scout.