just need to vent (m/c and ttc ment)

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just need to vent (m/c and ttc ment)

So it has been almost a month since we found out we lost this pregnancy. I am being followed by an RE since we were on fertility meds, and have now been back about 6 times for u/s and follow-ups to determine whether or not the pill-induced m/c has worked. Well, it does not seem that it has after two tries, and I am just so frustrated. We told our RE after this lost pregnancy that we were going to take a long break from ttc and now it just feels like they truly don't care about this process. I sort of feel like I am in limbo. I keep having to go to a place where they spend the majority of their time trying to get people pregnant, and all I want is for this one to be over. When I went in for my last u/s he told me to take the pills and said he did not need to see me again for a follow-up u/s, which I thought was really strange - shouldn't they want to make sure that everything is gone, especially after the first attempt was not successful? That is when I truly started to feel like they just want to be done with me. This sucks!! I know the next step is a d&c, which is what I want at this point, but they want me to come in for yet another u/s on Thurs. I know they need to do it, but I just don't want to go back there. I so wish I was back at my ob/gyn, but it just seems logistically easier to stay since the RE knows this pregnancy history. Sorry about the rant - I just want to move forward from this. And it is hard to feel sort of unsupported by the docs and somewhat tossed aside. As always, thanks for listening.

Joined: 03/16/15
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I am so sorry. You must be devastated that this is taking so long. I would want a D/C too because the pills just are not working. If on Thursday you still are not miscarrying naturally, then I would ask for the D/C.

Sorry about how they are treating you as well. Speak up for yourself.


Joined: 11/30/07
Posts: 117

Im so sorry, this is just awful! I found the hardest part of my m/c was waiting for the d & c and that is just dragging on for you for so long. I cant believe they can keep putting you through such a traumatic time. If you are anything like I was, you will probably not have much fight in you at the moment. It was all I could do to get up and showered. This is the time you need someone strong (dh?) and in control to speak up for you. Ask someone to come with you and insist this is just not on. Again, im so sorry for your loss, and so sorry that this sad situation has been made even worse. Feel free to pm me if you want to talk. Hugs to you.

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Joined: 01/13/07
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I am so very sorry that you are dealing with this. I know it is hard, but if you can you should say something about the shoddy treatment that you are receiving. I hope that everything gets scheduled for you soon.


Joined: 03/16/15
Posts: 53852

I am also so sorry that you have to deal with this. I hope you get natrual mc soon or the D&C so that you can start to heal. KUP and i will remember you in my prayers