My name is Vanessa and my DH is James and we have been married for 8 yrs this July.
I lost my son Sean Thomas on June 12, 2010 at 5:03 am @ 22 weeks. He was due October 14.
I apparently have a incompentant cervix and when Sean started to weigh more then my cervix could hold it dialated. I had no symptoms of this condition and the doctor checked my cervix quite a few times and it was completely closed.
I went to the dr on Friday because I kept having alot of wetness and a nurse told me I probably was just leaking urine but I just had a bad feeling and wanted to be checked just in case.
My dr checked me and the sac started to protrude from my cervix so he sent me to the hospital. He took me to surgery and tried to push the sac back into my cervix so he could put a stitch in to keep it closed but it did not work so he put me flat on my back in the hospital bed and gave me medicine to slow down Sean's urine production so my sac would shrink enough to hopefully try to re do the procedure Monday ( today).
My water broke Saturday at 10 pm and there was nothing they could do to stop it.
I was in labor with Sean for 7 hours with no pain medicine (besides Demoral but it did not help). He was delivered alive and lived for 1 hour or so. He was only 23 weeks and not developed enough with his lungs and eyes, etc.. so they could not save him. We were able to hold him and he responded to our voice by moving the little he could and they took pictures for us when he was alive. James even said he heard Sean make 3 little cries.
He is the most beautiful baby and we are going to try again once I heal enough. The dr said he will stitch my cervix up at 15 weeks next time I am pregnant so this will not happen again. My dr was so devestated. He held Sean as well and we saw tears in his eyes, he is such a caring man.
We are completely at a loss but seeing him and how perfect and beautiful he is we have to try again.. there is no question in our minds.
~ We had Sean's funeral today and it was so beautiful. I feel some closure but I am still so sad that he is gone and would do anything to have him back. I saw him in his casket wrapped up in the blanket my mother made for him and his little outfit and I had a very hard time leaving. I know he is in heaven with my little sister who died from cancer 2 years ago this November and our first baby that we lost at 8 weeks.