Lost our baby last night

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Lost our baby last night

I was 13 weeks and 2 days. Last night around 11 pm I had contractions and then my water broke. Blood came pouring out and when i went to pee the baby slipped out. the horror on our faces couldn't be measured. i am so distressed and beside myself.

I had large blood clots before it all finally subsided this morning into light spotting/period like discharge. Is this all normal? My doctor called me back in the middle of the night and said that it's all ok and to rest for a week.

How long did it take you all to recover? How were the blood clots? Sorry for all the graphic words here, I just need someone who understands.

Anne

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I am so sorry. Losing a baby is aweful, but to have it be so graffic must be unbearable. :bigarmhug: :bigarmhug: :bigarmhug: :bigarmhug:

Did you see your OB at all, or just talk with him?

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I am so sorry that this happened! You are welcome to vent here anytime! I hope you recover quickly. :bighug:

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I am so sorry you had to go through this. I also miscarried naturally at 13 weeks (baby only measured 8 weeks). It was very painful and tramatizing. I did not know to expect it to be so bloody. I also felt my water break then passed the gestational sac with the baby inside, followed by some clots, what followed was very similar to my normal AF. I don't want to get more graphic than this on the board, but feel free to PM me if you would like to talk more indepth or even if you just need a virtual shoulder to lean on.

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Thank you all for your support. it's a really empty time for those of us who have recently lost a child.

To the last poster, I am sorry you too lost one around 13 weeks. After the baby came out, i barely bled. then massive blood clots poured out - all night long. barely slept. By morning it looks like spotting and nothing, then its like i have a period. Just when i thought it was all over, my milk came in today. i'm so upset and i feel at a total loss. thank god for our toddler. at least i was able to have her, you know.

Our son measured exactly 13 weeks 2 days. i was told he died on the way out - the cord snapped. his body was pink and only turned white minutes later. he knew he was going to be born- he got into a ball position.

its the most horrifying thing i have ever witnessed. i just dont know what the hell to say now. i just cry all day/night. will probably need therapy for this.. it's just that bad. the shock on my husband's face is still there.

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Thank you all for your support. it's a really empty time for those of us who have recently lost a child.

To the last poster, I am sorry you too lost one around 13 weeks. After the baby came out, i barely bled. then massive blood clots poured out - all night long. barely slept. By morning it looks like spotting and nothing, then its like i have a period. Just when i thought it was all over, my milk came in today. i'm so upset and i feel at a total loss. thank god for our toddler. at least i was able to have her, you know.

Our son measured exactly 13 weeks 2 days. i was told he died on the way out - the cord snapped. his body was pink and only turned white minutes later. he knew he was going to be born- he got into a ball position.

its the most horrifying thing i have ever witnessed. i just dont know what the hell to say now. i just cry all day/night. will probably need therapy for this.. it's just that bad. the shock on my husband's face is still there.

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Oh sweetie, i am so sorry you had to experience that devestating loss.

It must be incredibly hard for you to write about it, but i wanted to thank you for your frankness and honesty. I am sure that ti will help others to read that they are not alone in what they experience with this kind of loss.

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I'm glad you found us and i hope that you will continue to post. This board is an amazing place for support.

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Lost as a result of Vasa Praevia at one day old.
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Thank you sarah. I see you had a major loss too, and i am so sorry.

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I am so sorry for your loss, and the way it happened sounds especially terrible. I don't know what to say, but just wanted to let you know that you are in my thoughts.

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I am so very sorry for your loss & cannot imagine what that must have been like for you. Please post here anytime...the ladies are wonderful.

You are in my thoughts.

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I am sorry for your loss, and feel awful that you have to go through this. Even though the reality is horrible, please be assured that you are not alone. I too went through a very traumatic and horrific experience. Quite honestly the worst 72 hours of my life. And every last detail is burned into my brain. Sights, sounds, smells, the general feeling of it all. It has been over 4 months since my loss, and it haunts me every day. I think that is the most difficult thing to explain to people who think I should just "move on." Because everytime I close my eyes it's like it's happening all over again.

Again, I am sorry for your loss... but you are in a great place. The support is wonderful. Please feel free to PM me if you ever need to talk.


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The ladies have already said it all....

I just wanted to say how terribly sorry I am that your baby has passed away Sad My heart just breaks for you Sad

You have come to a wonderful board....All the ladies are very supportive here...This is a great place to start the healing process...I am so glad you found us..

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I'm so terribly sorry for your loss. Be sure to take care of yourself. (((HUGS)))

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You are all so thoughtful to take the time to write to me. it really makes me feel less alone in this. it is unfortunate that you can relate so closely.

The bleeding is very weird. Doctors are saying "don't come in, it sounds normal" but last night i was leaking everywhere for over an hour and I thought I was really going to die. Is this really normal? It subsided enough over night, but the blood is still there (bright red blood. I swear it's like someone cut me in there).

Any advice on this one?

Anne

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I am so sorry for your loss.

I do not have experience with natural m/c, I had 2 d&c's for mine.

If I were you, I would probably go to the dr. to get checked. Just to be safe.

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I'm sorry for your loss. I've experienced the exact same thing the last 2 m/c's I've had. With one he was actually moving in my hand for about 5 seconds.

speaking from my experience, it sounds like you may not have delivered your placenta. TMI questions: When you had alot of clots, did you check them? Were any of them solid? I did not deliver my placenta with Angel #3 and the stupid ER doc didn't do an US to make sure it was out. I was bleeding very little by the time I got to see him and he "assumed" a huge clot was it. Since you are still having heavy bleeding call your doctor and tell him I DONT THINK the placenta came out. Insist on an US to make sure about that. I nearly died a month later when my placenta finally realized it didn't have a purpuse and decided it was time to leave. It was the size of my hand and very solid definately NOT a clot.

Karen

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I agree with Karen, i would get checked. It may be fine, but it is better to be safe.

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How sad to have the baby move and die like that! Sorry for your losses.

I expelled the baby first (totally clean, no blood - and no sac, was weird), then about an hour later i passed large clots, of which looked like the placenta, the other was def a clot, then an hour after that, more big clots. Then it was just bleeding.

I paged the doctor last night and was told that "you won't bleed to death. It's just from the back of a clot that formed after the placenta came off, perfectly normal". I called again at 4 am to ask again before I would take off to the ER (by this time the bleeding lessened to just spotting). Again I was told to basically chill out and let nature take its course. No sonogram, nothing. They won't be able to order me a sono until sometime next week.

To add insult to injury, they are requesting that I have all sorts of blood tests - involved a total of 4 vials. I feel like shouting "you know i lost a lot of blood! why do you want this much more!". Plus they know i am anemic. it's so frustrating.

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I am so sorry!! I am crying with you, I know it's very hard but please dont lock yourself in ur own world cos it's even worse...

You will be in my thoughts

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I am so very sorry for your loss. That is absolutley horrible.

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I got my blood back and found out that my combination of b-complex and chlorophyll raised my anemia from 10 to 12.5 in less than 2 weeks - even with all the bleeding. So I am thankful for that.

My beta is now 196 too. I want it to go down as it should, but at the same time it just reminds me (as im sure all of you) that the baby is gone. Now I can mourn without the worry of my health. This whole thing has been such a shock, but it's the way life goes i guess.

It's really awful to look on these boards and see other women experiencing this too. I wish we were all closer to share this grief together, rather than all being so far apart. Especially since husbands deal with the grief so differently, there is some loneliness there. At least for me.

Anne

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I'm so sorry Anne.

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I know how you feel... m/c ment

I'm new to this message board and came searching for support and to hear other womens stories.. I too just lot an angel boy at home at 11 w 2d on July 9th. This was our 4th loss and I thought it would be easier since I've already experienced the losses, but It feels worse. To go to the bathroom and watch in horror at what is happening is unbearable. I was bleeding so heavily that my OB had me go to the ER and monitor me, where 5hrs later they ended up performing a d&c to remove the placenta. I too was hopeful that this pregnancy would be different and God would grant me our wish. I lost my first 2 angels at 20 weeks and 24 weeks due to incompetent cervix so when I got pregnant the first time I knew they found the problem and I would be fixed.. No such luck! I m/c my third angel at 7w 4 d by finding out that the baby had no heartbeat on the US, So needless to say I really needed to see this support group and vent.
My question now is did any of you have OB that want to run a battery of tests and what should I expect now??? Do I give up on having a child or go through with tests ?? I'm not sure how much more I can take! :?

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Re: I know how you feel... m/c ment

"Bremoran" wrote:

I'm new to this message board and came searching for support and to hear other womens stories.. I too just lot an angel boy at home at 11 w 2d on July 9th. This was our 4th loss and I thought it would be easier since I've already experienced the losses, but It feels worse. To go to the bathroom and watch in horror at what is happening is unbearable. I was bleeding so heavily that my OB had me go to the ER and monitor me, where 5hrs later they ended up performing a d&c to remove the placenta. I too was hopeful that this pregnancy would be different and God would grant me our wish. I lost my first 2 angels at 20 weeks and 24 weeks due to incompetent cervix so when I got pregnant the first time I knew they found the problem and I would be fixed.. No such luck! I m/c my third angel at 7w 4 d by finding out that the baby had no heartbeat on the US, So needless to say I really needed to see this support group and vent.
My question now is did any of you have OB that want to run a battery of tests and what should I expect now??? Do I give up on having a child or go through with tests ?? I'm not sure how much more I can take! :?

I answered your other post... :comfort:

Again, I am so sorry for your losses. I would def go through all the testing. You know of one of the problems, this is good...and *may* be your only problem. Loss number 3 and 4 *could* have been due to trisomy/chromosomal issues, which are random, and common...sadly for us who have had to experience them Sad

Did they do testing on your last loss?? If not, they should have...As the genetic testing may give some answers..

I know this is very hard on you...You need to do what you feel is best for you. Know that we are all here for you :bighug:

Marie

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I'm so sorry that you had to experience that... and that your doctor is being such an ass about it. I think you should DEMAND an ultrasound, tell him you don't think you passed the placenta (or that you're worried or whatever) and just make him. You are PAYING him! He has to do whatever you want, that's why you're giving him money! Its not his job to tell you to stop worrying and let whatever happen. Its your body (listen to it) and your money.. he has to do it.

Sorry... I just realized that this is kind of a late post! I missed the second page. :oops:

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I'm so sorry Sad What a terrible experience, I'm praying for you and your baby.

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I am so sorry for your loss :bighug:

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I can not offer anymore advice then what the other ladies have said. I am just so sorry to hear of your loss. Take time and heal.