First off I want to say I hope I don't break any of the rules for this board, or offend anyone in any wording... I am new at this!
I had my first doc appt today where I should have been 10.5 weeks. All the doc found was sac with not much in it. There was a tiny blur, but the doc thought maybe it was tissue, not exactly sure! So I am going to mc this baby! Ahhhh, a little scared right now!
I now have the decision of letting it happen naturally or having a D/C done! I am leaning towards a D/C to get on with it... but I wanted to know everyones opinion on the difference! I know everyone has a different experience. For those who have had a D/C how did you body recover from it? did you bleed much after?
Thanks for everyones thoughts in advanced!! My emotional state is ok right now. Definately scared and sad, but trying to look on the bright side knowing that there was a reason for it!
I'm sorry that you have to go through this. I just had a D&C on friday. There was no heartbeat at 9weeks 1 day. I honestly do not know what the difference is. I have had very minimal bleeding. Actually I didn't have any bleeding until yesterday, that's four days, and it's light. Hopefully it will just stop and go away soon and it won't drag on.
I didn't have a D&C but I thought I'd add my experience. I miscarried naturally very early. I didn't have a choice. It just happened.
I miscarried at 5 weeks and some days. I expelled the sac a couple days before bleeding. I didn't know at the time because it was my first pregnancy. I woke up one morning bleeding heavlily with no pain. Went to the ER. They said my cervix was closed. But then I started having contractions later that night. It was painful. And bloody. The darkest time of my life. But I wouldn't change it. I bled heavily for 3 days cramped for 2. Then just spotted. On the third day, I went for a u/s. Doc said all the tissue seemed to be clearing itself out. Because I was so early, I ovulated again just 2 weeks after my visit to the ER.
IMO, the way you choose has to be best for you. Whichever way is best for your grieving process.
I am so sorry for what you are going through. I've been there. I've had 4 m/c's and 4 D&C's. I am now experiencing an ectopic pregnancy. The bleeding with the D&C was very minimal for me. I received medication for the ectopic pregnancy and I have been bleeding since 5/7/07. Remember that everyone is different. Do what's best for you?
I had my m/c naturally by choice. I was 13 weeks along, but the baby died around 10 weeks. My biggest problem with my decision was that my doctor did soooo little to prepare me for what it would be like. She just sent my husband and me home with instructions to collect any tissue that we could. The next weekend my MIL told me that she had a natural m/c, but her doctor admitted her to the hospital for it. I wasn't given that choice. I think if I had to do it again, I would have had it naturally, but insisted on being in the hospital so that someone else could take care of everything.
One thing you might want to ask about and consider is how long it could take to m/c on your own. Personally, I would have had the surgery if it had taken longer than 2 or 3 days. It's all about what you can handle emotionally vs. the risks of surgery (which seem to be very low with a D&C).
Either way, please let us know how you're doing afterward.
I misscarred naturally and if i had to do it over again i would have done a D&C. I don't want to scare your but my expeirence was very tramatic for me. I was not prepared and did not know what to expect. It is different for all women, but for me it was extremly painful and scary. If you decide to go natural, i would just make sure you are prepared and have a support system in place, don't go through it alone.
Unfortunately, I have had both a D&C and a natural m/c. In fact, I've had both this year. I think the D&C was much more humane for me. There was a lot less pain and it's over much more quickly. I had my D&C today, and I am glad to have had the choice this time to do a D &C . I was supposed to be 10 weeks yesterday, when we had the u/s that showed no fetal activity or growth.
Thank you all so much for your kind words and support!! I really appreciate it! I have decided to go ahead with a D/C. I have it scheduled for tomorrow. I am a little nervous about the surgery idea, but I know it is what is best for me! I will let you all know how it goes.
I hope everyones time here is short and sweet!
Beth good luck tomorrow. Hopefully your procedure will go as well as most of ours. It wasn't as bad as I thought and I got through it okay. I am sure you will too. Let us know how you're feeling. Take it easy as much as you can.