I've lurked for a bit; this board was suggested by one of my BB friends. I'm in such a state of bummed and anger that I don't know how to feel or what to do. I've also posted this on another board, the TTC after a loss. I'm just hoping to get as much thoughts on this as possible - your thoughts are absolutely welcome!
The long and short of it is this: I have 2 children, ages 9 and 18m. We were TTC #3 and were successful - for a time. I m/c at 6 weeks; I had 2 weeks of knowing I was pg and then 1 week of having to deal with knowing that I was not.
I had my final doctor's appointment today and am left wanting. I waited in the office for over 90 minutes only to have a 10 minute moment with a doctor I've never met. She told me my hormone level from the test a week ago was in the 200s and that I need to be retested today to see what direction the count was going. She did the exam and told me that everything was in a normal position, that I had to wait 2 months before TTC and then walked out. That was it. I didn't get my questions answered and I don't know where to go from here.
I know I need to see another professional and you can bet your butt I'm not going back there. I was hoping for closure with today's appt but I didn't get it. I have two questions and I'm hoping that you ladies, even though we don't know each other well, might be willing to give me your insight and experience - to at least help me mentally.
First thing, is that I have type O positive blood. Apparently I need (or needed) to have a shot to help with the pregnancy. I don't recall having one with either of my previous kids. I read that it has to deal with the Rh factor. My first child had jaundice like NO one's business because he's blood type A. We weren't compatible blood-type wise. I didn't have the same situation with #2 all. So do I need this shot before I TTC again? If I don't get the shot, will that increase the chance of a m/c?
The second thing on my mind, which appears to be a common question, is why do I have to wait 2 months to TTC again? I know about the emotional side, in addition to allowing the body to regulate itself out, both hormonally and biologically, esp. concerning the lining of the uterus. I m/c naturally and finished bleeding in less than a week. I want to start temping and will happily (well, maybe not) wait until my next pd to make sure that I HAVE a pd and then go from there. If I don't wait, do I increase my chance of another m/c? I have heard that the first 3 months after a m/c are the most fertile. Is that true? Am I setting myself up for failure again?
I appreciate you taking the time to read (if you made it this far) and offering any thoughts/suggestions.