I have been through 4 m/c in my life the first 2 were not planned pregnancies and were a blessing in disguise. That took a long time for me to be able to accept and process it, as both were still very emotional for me. In the last 2 years with my husband, we have experienced 2 m/c. Both were very different and I am writing this for 2 reasons. One to give me closure and two for anyone else out there that this may help get through their loss.
The first one, we were 9 weeks along when we went for our first US. It was at that time they told me that there was no heartbeat. I so did not want that to be true, so I went into denial. I drove myself crazy looking up everything I could on the Internet. I had no symptoms of a mc so I didn't want to believe it. Then, 2 weeks later I woke up and looked at my husband and said I'm not pregnant anymore. I still didn't have any of the symptoms until a week later. There was horrible cramping. I called a nurse helpline (In Alberta Canada they have this service - I know it's not available in many other places). After speaking with the nurse, we went to the hospital. It was the worse thing I have ever experienced. (I have been in the hospital MANY times - but this was still the worst). I had to wait in the waiting room. We were there for 3 hours before Triage even looked at me. I was bleeding out on the chair in the waiting room. My pants were covered, the chair was covered and it was dripping down my legs. My husband found me a wheelchair and pushed his way through the emergency room doors and demanded that they do something. I was in so much pain. I was finally admitted (he would not let put me back out into the waiting room). They put a bunch of painkillers into me, which helped a bit. They sent my husband out of the room when the Dr examined me. He could see that I was starting to pass everything but that it was "stuck" in my cervix. He pulled it out while I pushed and was able to remove everything in its entirety. When my husband was allowed back into the room he was shocked at the amount of blood that was all over the floor and splattered up the side of the bed. I was sent home to recover. That ordeal was incredibly emotionally tiring.
This time, we went for an US at what we thought was 7 weeks. The baby measured at 6W1D and had a HB of 86. I was scheduled for another US a week later. It was then they told me that it was not a viable pregnancy. Not wanting to go through the same thing as before I started to research how to move things along naturally. I was in my own medical cabinet when I came across an essential oil that I use for when I have really bad menstrual cramps (I have had bad cramps since I was 17). On it, it specifies that you should not use during pregnancy. Since I got this (It's called Moon Cycle 2 from Saje) from my sister, I emailed her and asked her why you are not supposed to use this during pregnancy. She said that it makes the Uterus contract. So I asked that if I wanted this to move along then I should use it. She said that I could try it. I started putting it on my stomach Tuesday night. I was woken up at 4 am with horrible cramps and very light spotting. I took a pain killer and went back to bed. I got up at 8:30 and went to work. I was slightly crampy throughout the day, but I was on a painkiller so it was bareable. That night I decided not to go to my exercise class, which was good as my cramps became significantly worse. At 3 am I woke up and went to the bathroom and passed a very large clot. All Day Thursday and all day Friday I passed quite a few very large clots. Some were dark red, one was the colour of flesh. There was no blood on it. My cramping subsided Friday night and by Saturday morning I was barely bleeding. I should note that I continued putting the essential oils on my stomach throughout all of this. I decided to stay busy and as active as I could. If I was moving around the cramps seemed to be less then if I was just sitting. Late Saturday afternoon, I began cramping again and I could feel something passing. I went to the bathroom and my pad was full. I sat on the toilet and passed 2 more large clots. I changed my pad and went back outside. 20 minutes later I felt like something else had passed and went back to the bathroom. Again my pad was full and I passed 3 more clots. This continued about 5 more times. Always filling my pad, then going to the bathroom and more clots passing. The last time, I had a severe sharp cramp, I passed something, but it didn’t feel like the other clots that I had been passing. I grabbed a large spoon from the kitchen and fished it out of the toilet. It was the size of my thumb and was rock hard. It had veins in it and it was bloody. A little gross to look, I know - but I had thought I had already passed baby so I needed to know and see for myself what this was. My cramps subsided again and there was moderate bleeding for the rest of the day. By Sunday, I was still bleeding, but it was much less and was now a brownish colour. It is Monday now, I am back at work. There is still cramping on and off (but more like a light period cramping then the cramping I had the days prior). I am still waiting to hear back from the DR on when to schedule my follow up Ultrasound.
I hope this can help anyone else who may be going through this. It's emotionally hard. Every MC is different. try to keep yourself occupied while you go through this to take your mind off of it. My thought and prayers go to everyone who has to endure this.