In my first pregnancy, I had horrible morning sickenss and I started bleeding at 7 weeks. They checked me and I had an ultrasound and everything turned out well. I had a subchorionic hematoma that they monitored until it went away around 16 weeks. At the end of all that, I got a beautiful baby girl who is now 2.
This time, my morning sickness started two weeks later than the first time and I thought maybe I'm lucky and won't have it. It started around 6 weeks and then I thought that at least that is 2 weeks less than last time. Around 8 weeks, I started to have muscle twinges that I had in my previous pregnancy around 14-16 weeks and had thought at that time that it was movement. I realized it was too early and it must be related to muscles and my uterus growing.
I had an appointment at 10w5d where they tried the doppler but could not detect a heartbeat (no ultrasound in office). My dr assured me that it was just too early and I had a tilted uterus which would make it harder to find anyways. Based on my birth board, it seemed like lots of people were not finding a heartbeat but they got confirmation right away that everything was fine with an ultrasound. i was still not worried because I was still experiencing strong morning sickeness, had no real cramping and no bleeding.
I went for my NTS scan at 12w5d (Tuesday). Right when I was about to say that I would like a CD with the pictures on (you have to tell them at the start) I knew the screen did not look right. The tech asked in a hesitant voice "are you sure about the dates." After, we met with the doctor and were told that the baby had died at 8 weeks. They were sorry but these things happen and here were my 3 options (wait it out, medication to induce and a D&C). They contacted my doctor's office who said they'd like an appointment with me the next day.
The next day (wednesday) at the doctor's office was totally useless. I was just told that they got my results and they were sorry. Again, i had three options. I wanted the D&C because I wanted it over. They had forwarded my results to the early pregnancy loss clinic. I saw the clinic on Friday and was again told the same things. They wouldn't do the medication induced m/c because it was before a weekend. Hopefully I will get the D&C next week but Thursday is a stat holiday here so that messes up the schedule. I started lightly bleeding on Friday but it had not progressed beyond that.
I am so frustrated at how long this is taking. I keep thinking each appointment will lead to an actual date but so far I am at the same point I was 6 days ago. I want to move on and it keeps coming back to I need to get the baby out of me.
I am so sorry about your loss. If you feel strongly about the D&C I would call and push the doctor. One needs to advocate for your self these days.
I understand the need to have things progress so you can begin to heal. May the love of those around you, help you through the days ahead.
I ended up having the m/c early this morning. It was not what I thought as I felt like I was in the end stages of labour between 2-6am this morning. I never saw the fetal tissue but it was too hard to tell.
I got a call for the D&C but because of this I now have to get an ultrasound later this week. Apparently, they don't want to do it today or tommorrow because the results will likely come back indeterminant. I hope it is done and my body can start to recover and get healthy again.