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Blase7722's picture
Joined: 05/31/07
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Moving from Feb 2008

Hello all.

I went in for my second u/s today to confirm a vanishing twin. It was confirmed, but they also found that there was no heartbeat in the one that we saw two weeks ago. It stopped beating and growing.

I am having a D&C Monday morning. My pre-op is this afternoon. We found this out through a specialist who deals in Maternal-Fetal Medicine so I am pretty sure there is no mistaking it. She is going to run some tissue tests to determine a reason and then we are going in for some genetic testing.

This is the second m/c in 6 months. The first was a confirmed blighted ovum at about 3-4 weeks. My cycles have been sporatic so they put me on clomid to regulate them in May.

I am so scared! Terrified that this is it. That I am not meant to have children in this world. I am also so worried about the D&C and that it will do damage. At the same time, I am terrified my body will start to m/c this weekend before the D&C. I am not sure I can mentally handle that.

aotus76's picture
Joined: 10/01/05
Posts: 170

I am so sorry for your loss. Please don't think you aren't meant to have children. Many women who have multiple m/c go on to have healthy pregnancies and beautiful babies. Some of us just have to wait longer and go through more difficulties than others.

I just had my D&C yesterday, I was very nervous about it, too, but it went very smoothly and I personally feel relief that I am now able to move on and focus on the future and trying again. It is good that they are doing the testing so you will hopefully be able to get some answers and determine a course to move forward.

This is such a hard thing to go through. :bighug:

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Joined: 04/12/07
Posts: 129

:bigarmhug:

I too am from the February 08 board. I am so sorry. How awful. I agree with the pp. A lot of women have m/c and go on to have healthy babies. Please, don't lose hope. Please feel free to pm me.

Melissa

Joined: 03/16/15
Posts: 53852

:bighug: I'm from the Feb. 2008 board too. I had my D&C 8 days ago. It was actually not bad at all physically.

I'm so sorry that you're going through this. Sad

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Joined: 08/09/05
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I am so sorry for your loss.

You have come to the right place to vent any feelings you might have. Unfortunately we all know how you feel here.

:bighug:

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DS Zane born at 41.5 weeks by c-section.
Lost as a result of Vasa Praevia at one day old.
16 - 17 October 2006.

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Joined: 10/17/05
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:bigarmhug: sorry for your loss

Joined: 06/26/07
Posts: 17

I am so sorry for your loss. I was also due in February and started my m/c natural this week, It's been an emotional week, but I have found a lot of support and comfort here from everyone. I will be thinking of you on Monday.

Hugs and Prayers
Julie

Joined: 03/16/15
Posts: 53852

I'm so sorry for your losses. It must have been a very stressful few weeks. Nothing you did or did not did or not do was your fault. it does not mean you were not meant to have a baby.

I have had two D&Cs. They are not bad and you recover from them quickly, physically.

Missy

Joined: 04/29/07
Posts: 209

I am so sorry for your loss hun. I lost my first baby last week due to a m/c i went in for my first u/s at 9 weeks and the baby had no heart beat. I hope everything goes well for you and don't think that you wont have children. Many women on this site have had multiple m/c and still have healthy children to this day. If you need anything you can always pm me!! :bigarmhug: These ladies are great im gald you found this board for the support!

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Joined: 07/02/07
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Hi Blase, so sorry

Hi Blase,

I'm so sorry your going through this. I've been throught it several times myself and I know it's extremely difficult.

I also live in Wilmington, NC (I just moved here a few months ago) and I am looking for a "high risk" OBgyn and Dr. Lidia Wright at Wilmington Maternal and Fetal Medicine was recommended to me by Cape Fear OBgyn. I was just wondering if that was the Dr. who you have been seeing and if you would recommend her? I'm not familiar with any of the oBs in the area and I don't know many people so I'm having a hard timing deciding where to go. I have had about 5 m/c (2 of them were ectopics) and so I'm definitely thinking I need a high risk ob. Any insight or recommendations you could give me would be greatly appreciated.

I know you had a hard day today so get a lot of rest. Try to hang in there.

chrissy

Joined: 06/19/06
Posts: 4

I too am moving from the Feb. 2008 board. I went today for my 2nd prenatal visit 8w5d and they saw the fetus, yolk sac, and fetal pole, but it measured 6w2d and no heartbeat. My husband and I are devastated. I have had slight cramping, but no bleeding or anything, infact, for the last week and a half, I have had severe nausea. I don't know why. Anyway, I understand where you are and will be praying for you. I have a D&C scheduled for Thursday.

Joined: 02/23/07
Posts: 24

I'm so sorry for you loss. Trust me you are not alone in your feelings of "Is this Ment to Be". Most of us here have been through multiple losses and it's each of our decisions of when and where to try again. Keep the faith. On the D&C side - the only time it can become an issue with future pg is when you've had ~ 5 or more and it really depends on the individual - it's the build up of scar tissue that is the issue but most D&C's don't leave too much so I wouldn't worry about that. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

Vickie