I went in for my second u/s today to confirm a vanishing twin. It was confirmed, but they also found that there was no heartbeat in the one that we saw two weeks ago. It stopped beating and growing.
I am having a D&C Monday morning. My pre-op is this afternoon. We found this out through a specialist who deals in Maternal-Fetal Medicine so I am pretty sure there is no mistaking it. She is going to run some tissue tests to determine a reason and then we are going in for some genetic testing.
This is the second m/c in 6 months. The first was a confirmed blighted ovum at about 3-4 weeks. My cycles have been sporatic so they put me on clomid to regulate them in May.
I am so scared! Terrified that this is it. That I am not meant to have children in this world. I am also so worried about the D&C and that it will do damage. At the same time, I am terrified my body will start to m/c this weekend before the D&C. I am not sure I can mentally handle that.
I am so sorry for your loss. Please don't think you aren't meant to have children. Many women who have multiple m/c go on to have healthy pregnancies and beautiful babies. Some of us just have to wait longer and go through more difficulties than others.
I just had my D&C yesterday, I was very nervous about it, too, but it went very smoothly and I personally feel relief that I am now able to move on and focus on the future and trying again. It is good that they are doing the testing so you will hopefully be able to get some answers and determine a course to move forward.
I am so sorry for your loss. I was also due in February and started my m/c natural this week, It's been an emotional week, but I have found a lot of support and comfort here from everyone. I will be thinking of you on Monday.
I am so sorry for your loss hun. I lost my first baby last week due to a m/c i went in for my first u/s at 9 weeks and the baby had no heart beat. I hope everything goes well for you and don't think that you wont have children. Many women on this site have had multiple m/c and still have healthy children to this day. If you need anything you can always pm me!! These ladies are great im gald you found this board for the support!
I'm so sorry your going through this. I've been throught it several times myself and I know it's extremely difficult.
I also live in Wilmington, NC (I just moved here a few months ago) and I am looking for a "high risk" OBgyn and Dr. Lidia Wright at Wilmington Maternal and Fetal Medicine was recommended to me by Cape Fear OBgyn. I was just wondering if that was the Dr. who you have been seeing and if you would recommend her? I'm not familiar with any of the oBs in the area and I don't know many people so I'm having a hard timing deciding where to go. I have had about 5 m/c (2 of them were ectopics) and so I'm definitely thinking I need a high risk ob. Any insight or recommendations you could give me would be greatly appreciated.
I know you had a hard day today so get a lot of rest. Try to hang in there.