my heart aches(m/c ment)

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my heart aches(m/c ment)

hello ladies my name is abby i been married for 5 yrs ttc for the same amount of time...finally got pregnant my due date was march 29 2008 i found out today at 12 wks and 3 days that there was no heartbeat and my baby had stopped growing...im devastated..many ladies told me to post here...im trying to be strong but i cant help but cry....thanks ladies...

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I'm sorry you have to be here Abby. My heart hurts for you. I too was due in Mar. I had a blighted ovum with a d&c on Sep7th. I think you can still be strong and cry. Hugs!

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I'm so sorry for your loss. I agree with the pp, you can cry and still be strong. The ladies on this board are a wonderful support system. :bigarmhug:

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I am so sorry for you loss Sad

The ladies were right to send you here...as this board is full of wonderfully supportive ladies...

I agree with the pp's...You can be strong, and cry....I will even go as far as to say you can be strong and throw things if need be!!

We are here for you :bighug:

Marie

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I'm so sorry for your loss. A loss at any stage is heartbreaking, but being as far along as you were must be very tough. We fall in love with our beans within hours of getting a bfp. Its more painful after ttc for so long too.

After my loss I went to the library and took out every book on m/c and one book was specifically pointed to people who loose babies after going thru infertility. I'm not sure of the name but you can probably find it.

Tell your dh that i'm sorry for his loss too.

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Oh honey i know that achey heart feeling so well! Sad I am so so sorry that you had to be referred here, but glad you sought us out. It's been a comfort to me to know that there are people who are going through the same thing as me.

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I am so very sorry for your loss. This is definitely the place to be to let it all out. Crying is something that you will be doing for a while. There are moments where you will be fine and then WHAM!! it hits you all over again. Come here and vent and cry and lean on the ladies here. I know that I have. This board has been a link in my sanity. I hope that you find peace.

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I'm glad to see many people giving support to my sister Abby .. thank you all in this momment of sadness for our family.

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thanks soo much all you ladies....i can't imagine doing this with out a support like you guys...

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I'm sorry for your loss. I'm glad you found this board.

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Hi Abby,

M/C ment..

I was on the march board as well and my EDD was March 29th. This board is truly helpfull and has maid the pain a little bit easier. My story is much like yours. I went in for some light spotting and I found at at a 11wks 3 days that there was no longer a heartbeat. My baby heart stopped beating around 9-10wks. I had a D&C last tuesday. Just know we are here for you.

Take Care,
Alicia

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I am right here with you girl from the due in april board.I am again sorry for your loss and I am right on the crying jag with ya esp today.:openarms:

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I'm so sorry for your loss. I know what it feels like to wait so long and then have it end in a loss. I tried for about 5 years in my first marriage, even did IVF and GIFT but nothing worked. I gave up but conceived naturally a couple years later but sadly miscarried at 9 weeks.

*child mentioned*
Not to make this too long of a story but I remarried a few years after that happened and me and new hubby adopted a little boy from Russia. We were so happy and he's doing great. BUT to give you hope....we conceived about three years later and had a baby boy in '05. So this was after about 12 years of trying with no luck. So, it finally happened. And it can happen for you.

(((Hugs)))

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Abby, it's not the exact same cicumstances, but I do understand your pain. We had been ttc for about 15 months when I got pregnant. Sadly, I lost the baby at 16 weeks. We also don't know what happened, the baby just stopped growing.

I'm so sorry for your loss, it's just awful to go through infertility and then lose a baby.