My Loss (DH death ment)

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My Loss (DH death ment)

Ok, so I know it's not the same as the loss you all have been through, but I have read some of your posts and I can tell I might get some support here. (The other "loss" boards seem kinda slow.) Anyway, I woke up on Sunday March 2 around 7:30 a.m. and my DH was dead, beside me. He was 33, not sick, and we still have no autopsy results. I feel so empty. Everyday does get easier, but that is only because my 3 kids and my full-time job keep me form having the time I need to cry. I went to the cemetery for the second time today and sobbed. I can't help but having the "Why me?" attitude. I am a 23 year old widow with 3 babies.

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I'm so sorry for your loss. :bighug::bighug::bighug:

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I am so sorry to hear about your loss. It is so hard to believe that your DH passed away. Have you been told how long the autopsy results will take?

How have your kids been holding up? Do you family or friends close by who can help you out?

I wish I had words to comfort you. Please just know that my thoughts are with you and I'm here if you need to talk.

Antionette

Lily Maria Kathleen :angel1: August 10, 2007

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Oh my gosh. I am so sorry. I will add your family to my prayers. :bighug:

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Oh I am SO sorry. You are so welcome on this board. My dh went thru a spousal loss so he can relate moreso than me. So sorry and I cannot imagine what you went thru. Feel free to get it out here or pm me anytime.

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I have followed your story. I am so so sorry for your loss. I can't even imagine the pain you're feeling. This board is such a wonderful source of support and I know you'll be embraced. My thoughts and prayers are with you. Hugs to you, Kendall

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You have my deepest sympathy -- how horrifying. I've never experienced such a loss, but I can truly empathize. I'm glad you wrote in here, and reached out for support. Please feel welcome to write here anytime.

I hope you and your children have supportive family and friends around you -- hang on to them tight, and I hope you will accept any offer of their support. I also hope you get the answers soon about your husband's passing (from the autopsy). You and your children are in my thoughts and prayers.

Hug your children tightly -- they are your gifts. Your DH will always live through them, and share your lives. When I lost my angel babies, the greatest comfort I had was from hugging my two girls who are here with me on this earth -- we are blessed, despite our traumatic losses. Our children connect us to those who have passed away.

Great, big group hug to you and your little ones,
Love Nicole

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Oh, my dear. I wish I could hug you. I can not possibly understand what you are going through. I hope you belong to a church or have family close to help you through this. I'm just so very very sorry for your loss.

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Thank you for that, you are a strong woman. May you and your children be blessed to have had such a wonderful man in your lives.
Jen

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I am so very very sorry for your tragic loss.

Please let it out here any time that you need to do so.

Loss is horrific and life shattering. Unfortuantely we all know the pain of loss.

:bigarmhug:

I wish I had the right words, but no words will ever suffice.

Shelly

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I am beyond sorry for your loss! I hope the autopsy results provide some sort of closure for you! My father passed away at the age of 42, leaving my mom widowed with four children (20, 14, 8, & 6) so I know what you're going through from a different perspective. My mom later re-married when I was about tweleve and we lost my step-dad when I was 17. Loss is no mystery to me. If you ever need anything, we're always here for venting and crying! (((HUGS)))

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I am so sorry for you loss.
You and your family are in my prayers.

Melissa

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I am so sorry for you loss. I have been praying and thinking abour you and our family since I first read about your loss on the host board. :bighug:

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I am so sorry for your loss!

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I am so, so, sorry for the loss of your dh... Sad My best friend lost her husband when he was only 27 years old (about 17 years ago) He had heart problems which were more than manageable at the time...He had surgery to replace a valve when he was around 20 I suppose. The valve was showing possible functioning problems..His heart was enlarging as a result. The docs were really not concerned due to his young age...They found the prob quickly and put him on medication to stop the heart from enlarging...They felt confident that medication was all that would be needed...That said, worst case scenerio he was looking at valve replacement. He died in bed next to her 3 days later..His heart failed causing him to suffocate..My friend tried to revive him but could not...Her kids were little at the time...2 and 7...I was in total shock when she told me of his death...I was on vacation at the time...Florida for the week..When I came back, there were many messages from her just saying *call me* He was already buried...I just could not believe it.

It took her years to come to terms with his death....She kept on thinking that she failed him some how (which she did not!!) ...not being able to revive him...She would have panic attacks frequently...She is doing fine now...Her kids are just great...One will be a lawyer soon, and is getting married to a lawyer. And her other child is still figuring out what he wants to do! (grad HS) But is a great kid...She did a wonderful job in raising her kids by herself....Who knows what the future holds..But for now, know that you can/will do the same.

You lost your husband....A part of you...I do believe that this board can be of great help to you as you try to make sense out of your life...Just get through the day..

Please, don't be shy about posting as time passes...This is a loss board..We will all try and support you the best we can..

:bighug:

Marie

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I'm so sorry for your loss

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I am so very sorry for your great loss.

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I can't imagine the pain you must be experiencing. It must be overwhelming to imagine your life without him.
I hope you have some family or friends nearby who can help you with your children so you can find some time to yourself to grieve.
I'm so sorry for your loss!
((HUGS))

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I'm so very sorry! I've had a few close losses recently and I'm terrified of something happening to my DH, I just cannot imagine the pain you must feel. Please take care of yourself and take things one day at a time:bigarmhug:

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:bighug: I am so sorry for your loss. I can't even imagine what you are going through right now. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

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Your story leaves me simply speechless. Life is so horribly unfair sometimes. I hope that you can find some peace eventually and keep pushing on. Remember that your children are little perfect pieces of both you and your DH that you will always have to remind you of him.

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hugs, we are all here for you.

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Oh my, I am so very sorry. I will keep your family in my prayers.