Ladies, I am miserable today. I have anxiety and depression anyway from dealing with the loss of Rebecca, but during the week before and up to AF my anxiety and depression are through the roof. I started a new BC pill call Yaz which is suppose to help but I am so sad and anxious today. I have been writing through tears. I never had PMS like this before. I wanted to know if you have any natural remedies that could help. I also wanted to vent. My husband who is usually very understanding, can not deal with me during this time. I am sobbing and thinking horrible things, depressing things. It did not help that I had a dream that my husband left me to go back to his ex wife because he couldn't handle my depression and anxiety any more, in the dream he said he wanted a normal life without sadness. I know it was just a dream but it felt so real. I have been having really good days lately. I am out of the house more, I go to friends houses and was even looking forward to going back to work, now this morning all I want to do is cry. Hormones suck.
Could use some hugs and comfort from my internet family.
It does get better with time. But it's still always hard. Hormonal shifts don't help.
Have you talked to your doctor? A therapist maybe? It often helps to talk about things. Have you considered a loss support group, even if DH doesn't come, it will help you find ways to cope with being sad. It's not that you can't be sad, but it gives you ways to deal with being sad.
My last AF was very similar. It was hormonally vicous. But once AF passed so did all the bad thoughts and extreme anxiety. Hang in there. We are here. But I would call your Dr just to let them know...maybe Yaz isn't for you...It's worth a phone call. Take care!
So sorry you're feeling crappy. I feel worse near AF.
Have you considered not taking birth control pills? I know you're not emotionally ready for another pregnancy, but if those hormones are really affecting you it would probably do you good to come off them. You could chart to avoid pregnancy and use withdrawal and condoms during your fertile time?
I am so very sorry that you are going through this right now. I am getting ready to have my second cycle since my loss and the hormones are debilitating. They were even worse with the last cycle. I am hoping that each cycle they get at least a little better if not a lot better IYKWIM. I hope that you feel better soon.
As for the dreams, I know that they are so vivid that they affect your waking emotions and moods. It is hard to remember that dreams are just manifestations of what we are worried about. Hopefully you can talk to your husband about your feelings once the hormones have calmed down some.
I am glad to hear that you have had some better/good days. It is great that you allow yourself those. Just remember to allow yourself to "backslide" too.
I do not know your whole story, but you could be suffering from PPD. Talk with your OB, they may be able to give you something fo ryour depression and anxiety. many of these medications are safe suring pg if you still need them.
I had a loss in 2002. I did not deal with the anxiety and the depression and ended up spending almost a month inpatient for depression. I'm not trying to scare you or say your outcome will be the same as mine was. but, I would talk about your depression and try not to put it on the back burner and "suffer" through it. You do not have to do this alone.
If you want a natural approach, vit b12 and the Omega 3,6,9 are good for depression.
I am already on meds for anxiety and depression, they also believe I have ppd and maybe even post tramatic stress disorder. I am getting better, but the hormones around Af just totally mess me up. It is frustarating but I have to remind myself that it is hormones and that I will be alright. It is hard to keep the positive energy flowing.
I am in therapy and that helps too. Just trying to find my old happy self. Trying to be alive without my angel.