As many of you ladies know already, we are in a lawsuit over the loss of our precious Damien.
We had to wait six months after filing with the navy before we could file federally.
Our six months is nearly over and our lawyer is moving forward with the case. Well, he contacted me yesterday about some paperwork that he needs. For the federal filing, he needs a copy of the certificate of fetal demise. Here comes the vent.....
I really really hate that term. I hate the word fetus. I know that it is a medical term and technically correct but I still hate it. That was not just a fetus and it was DAMIEN'S DEATH not just some clinical case of fetal demise.
As everyone on this site can attest, that is our baby from the minute we know of their existence.
I just hate the callous and cold and impersonal nature of that term. There could be nothing less personal than the death of my sweet child.
Okay, I am going to step off of my soap box for now.
I hate it too. They are living beings whether they make it 40+ weeks or not. They are living and hence they are part of me and mean something. I just wish there was a better way to approach it. Just like when they fill out certain info they put Baby So'n'So. No she had a real name. Use it.
I hate how they try so hard to make it not personal. They have to detach themselves from it. I am a real believer in the truth. The real truth always comes out if you keep on with persistence. This court case will be so hard, but just take things a day at a time.
I love when anyone says my baby girl Zara's name. It is so special when I hear them acknowledge her as a person. It is like a song to my ears.
Take care of yourself. You are a good mom.
I agree! Just like the term "sponteous abortion", they both irk me to no end! I'm sorry I don't know the details behind the loss of your son, but I do hope whatever is filed goes through and you get what justice you're looking for!
I'm so glad you chose to vent about it, and that you've received lots of empathic responses here. Me too: I really feel for you -- I remember the detached and clinical way my ob/gyn spoke. So darned factual, I just wanted to scream in his face (but I resisted...)
Damien is your son, and you are his mommy -- period.
I'm sorry you have to go through legal dramas too: I'll keep you in my thoughts and prayers. I hope the legal matter passes as soon as possible.