New and have some ?'s (M/C, TTC, child ment)
I just m/c'd on Friday at about 12 weeks. My story is I was on a copper IUD after DS was born, and he was nursing at least 4 times a day until late March at which point I weaned him completely. We had started TTC in January, but I never had AF after DS was born, so I figured it would take a while. I found out I was PG in April, but I only found out on Friday how far along I was, when the doctor removed the placenta and told me. (I was about 2 weeks further than I had thought). I'm sad, but I realize it was likely for good reason so I'm peaceful knowing LO is in a better place. Although I'm a little scared to TTC again, I'm don't feel guilty about it (at least not yet :)) because I don't feel at all like it's an attempt to replace this baby, it will just be our 3rd child.
I know this is really early, but we want to TTC again as soon as possible, since DH will be out of the country for 4 months this fall and I don't want to wait until next year.
How long does it usually take to get 1st AF after a m/c, and can anyone tell me why I am supposed to wait to have AF before TTC again? I'm edgy since I will likely have max 2 cycles before DH leaves.
TIA for the advice.