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Hi everyone, I had just experienced my second miscarriage. I thankfully have a precious 3 yr old girl. My first m/c was in 2004 then the second m/c was 1 month ago. I have a genetic disorder called a balanced translocation. I found that out after my d&c. I feel like such a failure knowing my own body is doing this. People who had never experienced this so don't understand what you go through physically and mentally. i am so grateful for this, to be able to talk to people who experienced the same as me.

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Sorry for your losses.

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Im so sorry that you have had to go through such pain not only once but twice! Sad

I hope that you are able to learn more about your condition and do what you need to do for your family.

Big hugs!

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I am so very sorry for all of your losses.

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I am so sorry. I agree, unless you have been through it, it is so hard to understand and be empathetic. I hope the diagnosis helps you to have a plan so you can be holding a baby in arms soon. Hugs!

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I'm so sorry for your loss. I too have a balanced translocation. I have never met or spoken to anyone else with a similar diagnosis before. I can totally relate to how you feel responsible. I always feel guilty that it is me who carries the 'abnormality', that if only I had a normal genetic makeup, my DH and family wouldn't have to keep going through this nightmare. PM me if you ever want to talk.

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I'm so sorry for your losses. I hope you find some comfort from this board... I know I have. We're here for you, hang in there.

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I am so sorry for your losses. I have also suffered more than one m/c, and it's just horrific.

You've come to the right place here -- everyone is very caring, supportive and understanding. Write in again whenever you want or need to.

We're all here for you, sweetheart, and we're going to help you through this.

Hugs,
Nicole

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I am sorry for your losses. The women here are the best and they have helped me get throu those rough patches. No women here should never have to experience another miscarriage again or anywhere for that matter. I have had two miscarriages as well for unexplained reasons in 2006 and have no living children. Well we are here for you.

Aurora J

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I am so very sorry for your losses. I can't imagine going through mutliple m/c but we were here for you whenever you need to talk or cry or just need a laugh even.

Do you know if there is any sort of treatment for the genetic disorder?
I ask because since I lost my little girl at 19 weeks and we haven't had the chance to do any genetic testing yet, I'm trying to read up on all possibilities so I can be as informed as humanly possible.

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"jenners319617" wrote:

Do you know if there is any sort of treatment for the genetic disorder?

I'm not the OP, but I do have a translocation myself and there is no treatment for this particular disorder. It doesn't cause any problems for the carriers, other than the reproductives ones, because we have all the genetic information needed, it's just not packaged in the 'normal' way. The trouble comes during conception where if you pass on one of the 'mixed up' chromosomes with a 'normal' copy, then the baby has three copies of some genes and only one copy of some other genes (instead of two copies of every gene) and usually the baby can't develop properly.

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Thank you

I want to thak everyone for your warm thoughts and wishes. It really meant a lot to me. Thank you again.

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:bighug: Sorry for your losses

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I am so sorry for your losses. Its never easy to lose any baby but to have multiple just jabs at you more and more. It feels like youve lost another piece of your life every time your new miracle passes away. I hope that you can find some help and through healing and time welcome a new miracle into your arms. Again Im so sorry.

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I'm so sorry that you have any need to be "new here". I wish there were no need for this board. My sympathy, and empathy, for your losses.

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i am so sorry for your losses....i like Jen could not imagine the pain of going through multiple m/c's....i can't even say i know exactly where you are coming from..because i don't..but i do know how it feels to m/c and i know that us ladies are here for you if you need to vent, talk, or cry...