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New here, Intro and story (m/c ment)

Hi everyone. My name is Michelle and I just recently had a loss. It was my 2nd PG and didnt expect it at all. I am still im complete shock and still very depressed. My due date was 1/6/2010. I had my 2st ultrasound and the baby measured 7weeks 5days with a strong HB of 157bpm. The tech had found a subchorionic hemorrhage but was assured everything would be fine. The day after the ultrasound I started spotting. I had called the Dr. and they assured me everything would be fine and spotting was normal because of the hemorrhage and put me on pelvic rest and to stay off my feet as much as possible. A week later I was still spotting and called the Dr. again. They again assured me it was normal and I could have my levels drawn for my peace of mine. My first # was 42,367 wich sounded great. When I called to get my 2nd set of #'s the nurse told me they #'s wernt rising and I may be having a threatened miscarriage and I would have an ultrasound at my next appt a week later. I insisted to come in that day to have the ultrasound done. They did not find a hearbeat. I was 9weeks 5days. The baby measured 8weeks, 5days. The baby passed away a week after my first ultrasound. I have a D&C scheduled for this coming Friday. Im so confused and upset. Im guessing the hemorrhage had something to do with the loss of my baby, although the Dr. wont confirm. It hurts even more to know that after you hear the hearbeat you have only about 10% chance of loosing the baby. I really thought everything would be fine considering my first pregnancy I didnt have any complications. DH and I cant wait to start TTC again but im not going to lie, im going to be very scared. I hope I can fine women to talk to who have been there and understand what I am going though.

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I am sorry for your loss. Unfortunatly, there is no reason why these things happen. It is not your fault.

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I'm so sorry for your loss. I heard my baby's heartbeat before my loss too, and it hurt horribly. But you can't beat yourself up or blame yourself for this, it was something out of your control. Hopefully the d&c goes as well as possible; have a hot water bottle ready, it helped me alot with the physical pain. If you asked for any answers with the d&c, hopefully you will get them then. The women here are absolutely amazing, the support is wonderful and is what has gotten me through the past month with a shred of sanity. Vent, rant, cry, we're all here to listen. :bigarmhug:

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Thanks ladies. Im hoping that being here will help me out. Talking to people who unfortunatly understand my situation just seems better and can have better responses than someone who hasnt experienced what we have. Sometime the "im sorrys" from the BB just dont seem to be enough right now.

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BIG hugs hun. I def know where u are coming from and I know what its like to b in a place like this. Such good support is ALL that I found here. Nuthin less. Im sure you will b scared WHEN u get pregs again...its normal. Praying for ya!

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I am very sorry for your loss. I understand what you are going through. I heard my baby's heartbeat and was in the OR an hour later. It is normal to be scared to get pregnant again. Give yourself some time. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.


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:bigarmhug: I'm so sorry for your loss...I hope your recovery goes smoothly from the D&C. Sending many thoughts and prayers your way!

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So so sorry for your loss. I really hope everything goes as good as it can for you.

Many many thoughts and prayers!

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I'm so sorry for your loss. :bigarmhug:

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I'm so sorry for your loss! :bigarmhug:

I hope this board will become a haven for you as it did for me when I suffered my loss. We also saw a strong hb at 6 weeks and then I went in for a pre-travel check and they couldn't find it. The baby measured 9w and had died just a few days before that. I felt just like you did about the chances after seeing a hb.

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Hugs Michelle. I also saw the heartbeat at 7wks, and went in at 9wks to no hb. I thought I was in the clear at that point. I hope the d&c goes well. I am glad I chose to do the d&cs both times, it was over quickly and not as bad as I had thought it would be. If you have any questions, please ask away. These ladies are awesome, they have helped me immensely through my losses the last 2yrs.

Also, whether you are actively ttc or not, you should definitely go over to ttcal, it is very active over there (sometimes it is slower here) and the ladies are awesome.

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Hugs darling. It is a horrible place to be and sadly i know exactly how you are feeling too. I too have had two losses and the second I had seen the HB.

We are all here for you. Any questions or support you need do come here.

It is two months now since my last loss and i do feel a lot better. It is a cliche but time does help.


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Please feel free to pm me with any questions that you have. I had a full term still birth and know the devastation of loss.


I am now thirty weeks into my following pregnancy. I am terrified of another loss, but yet at the same time am thrilled to be expecting another baby in our family. Losing our son was the most agonizing thing that I have ever gone through and this pregnancy has been a complete roller coaster of emotions, the biggest one being guilt.

Again, if you want a shoulder to cry on, an ear to listen, or anything that I may be able to provide, please do not hesitate to PM me.

~Damien~ 7/31/07