New and Waiting for Loss (m/c ment, child ment)

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New and Waiting for Loss (m/c ment, child ment)


I am in shock. This week I went for my first ob appt. and the doctor wanted to do a dating u/s because I wasn't exactly sure of my dates. At the u/s the tech couldn't find anything in the gestational sac, no fetal pole. I was measuring 7 weeks, which is probably about right considering when I think I O'd. I was stunned. It was the last thing I thought would happen. I've had no bleeding, no pain, mild symptoms. My OB says it doesn't look good--it is most likely a blighted ovum and wants me to come back in two weeks for another ultrasound.

I am just in disbelief. I felt this was a miracle baby as we only wanted two children, the pg came at such a bad time in my life, and considering how often my dh and I have been DTD after my last baby (it was painful and I have been suffering from ppd), it felt like it was just meant to be.

After the initial shock and panic of the bfp, I had really come to terms with having this baby and was REALLY excited about it. And then to find out there isn't a baby is devastating. And now I just have to wait to miscarry (I don't want a D&C) all the while keeping it together for my 3 and 1 year old sons.

Even though I have two beautiful children, this is still heart wrenching. I keep thinking that after I miscarry, I want to try to conceive again. How crazy is that when two months ago I didn't even want three children! I feel like if I don't try for another baby something will always be missing.

Thanks for listening...

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I am so sorry about what you are going through. It must be so hard having to wait. Please make sue you take care of you. I had PPD and suffering a loss may bring back some of the depression. Sending prayers.

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I'm so sorry for your loss... I hope you are able to find peace and start healing soon, and when the time is right you will have another miracle bean!!

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So sorry you have to go through this.

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I"m so sorry for your loss. Don't feel too bad about all of your mixed up feelings. I've been a wreak for the better part of a month now. One second I'm fine and the next I"m so sad I don't speak for hours. Every loss is hard, no matter if it was planned, unplanned or if there are other children.

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I am so sorry. :bighug:

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I am so sorry. I had a blighted ovum a little over a year and a half ago, and was also stunned. It was awful just waiting for that second u/s and then waiting to miscarry. My doc did not want me to go for more than 2wks after finding out.... so I did end up having a d&c almost 3wks later.

Anyhow... hugs and prayers, and please come join us over at ttcal (trying to conceive after a loss), whether you are ready to try again or not.

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Amy- I am so sorry for your loss. Your situation really hits home for me. We lost our little one in December.. not due to a blighted ovum, but a missed miscarriage. We lost our baby at 8 weeks, but didn't find out until 11 weeks. It was a very SURPRISE pregnancy... I had a 7 month old and a 2 1/2 year old. It was shocking. But we were finally at the point where we were SO excited, and then we found out that it had died 3 weeks before. I pray that you would find strength to get through this. I know for me, my two kids were such therapy and helped me through this so much.

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How are you feeling?

Sending hugs and prayers.