I know it's not something people like to talk about but I know many women who have lost babies. Why didn't they tell me how much it hurt? Physically, I mean. Even after I told people that I was going to loose the baby no one told me what to expect during the actual miscarriage. I'd never say antything to any of them, but what the hell, a little hint at what was ahead would have been nice. I mean, I'm not stranger to pain. i've had kidney stones, IBS and cervical scaring. But I didn't expect that! I read a few things on boards like this that let me know what to go to emergency for and thank god for that. If I hadn't known, I would have went to emergency and suffered all that in public with strangers. I might have complained about my husband's lack of misery over this whole thing but I was being unfair. He was grieving in his own way and when i needed him yesterday and today, he was here for me 100%. Most of the actual pain has gone away. I still have waves and clots every now and then, but I'm going to try to work tomorrow. I can't stand the idea of staying home all alone for a whole day. DH took today off but we need the money so he has to go in tomorrow. Thanks again for the support girls. I can't tell you how much it means to have others who get what I'm going through.