Not Moving on at All

7 posts / 0 new
Last post
cdokter's picture
Offline
Last seen: 3 years 8 months ago
Joined: 02/18/08
Posts: 126
Not Moving on at All

I need to vent. I feel like since I lost this second baby my life has become stagnant. I haven't met any new people, forged any friendships or maintained any previous friendships. I moved to another province before my first loss. I've been here two years now and have had a loss each year. Being away from family and friends was extra hard for me because of that. I'm very close to my family and I had some really great strong friendships when I was back home. Since moving here, I've really missed that. And I have really needed the support that those relationships would have given me. For various reasons, friendships here just haven't worked out. Pregnancies, work issues and other things have kind of gotten in the way of developing any budding friendships. And, if I'm honest, I'm not the happiest or most outgoing since. I try, but people seem to avoid me now and I used to make friends so easily. I'm not sure what I'm dong wrong now. Maybe I'm just over sensative. I'm being treated for anxiety and depression and knowing that has made me second guess almost everything I do. I feel broken and I'm stuck. Thanks for listening.

Legal Gal's picture
Offline
Last seen: 6 years 9 months ago
Joined: 06/24/09
Posts: 56

(m/c mentioned)

Hi. Just wanted to say that I understand how you feel. I only m/c'ed a week ago, so maybe I can't really talk yet. But I used to be so positive and really outgoing. I, too, am in a new place, away from friends and family. And I am really struggling to go do things that are social. I just don't feel like faking and pretending to be happy. Anyways, just wanted to thank you for venting, as I can understand.

Audgee's picture
Offline
Last seen: 1 year 3 months ago
Joined: 08/24/05
Posts: 305

I think a lot of us can relate. Having had 5 losses (4 m/c and 1 almost full term loss) I know that I am not the same person I was. Especially through the m/cs -With each one a piece of me died, and I definitely became less and less like 'me'.
I needed to deal with the grief and not try to push it aside.

Going through losses certainly changes your perspective on life, and that can in turn effect friendships (whether you are trying to make new ones, or keep old ones)

I'm not sure what province you are in, but maybe starting with a support group if people who understand might help (I'm trying to find one in Ontario myself)

SparkleMomma's picture
Offline
Last seen: 4 years 8 months ago
Joined: 04/24/02
Posts: 648

Sweets--Hey, you know I'm here and I would love to meet with you for coffe, a chat or whatever. I think we could both use a girl's night out!

Drop me a PM and we can see if we can arrange something.

:bighug:

Diane

SparkleMomma's picture
Offline
Last seen: 4 years 8 months ago
Joined: 04/24/02
Posts: 648

Hiya Hon, hope you are doing better. Haven't seen an update from you since your OP, but I want you to know that I'm still thinking of you & remember, PM me at any time Biggrin

:bighug:

Diane

FLSunshineMom's picture
Offline
Last seen: 2 years 6 months ago
Joined: 06/07/06
Posts: 3859

I am very late seeing this, but wanted to give you a hug and tell you that I understand. I am having a hard time moving on myself. Give yourself some time. I will pray for you. :stillhug:

cdokter's picture
Offline
Last seen: 3 years 8 months ago
Joined: 02/18/08
Posts: 126

Thanks. It helps to know that your in another persons thoughts.