A Note About Signatures & Avatars

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A Note About Signatures & Avatars

Hello ladies. Smile I notice that there are unfortunately quite a few new ladies on the board, so i thought i'd better draw everyones attention to the guidelines for signatures and avatars, but particularly the avatars section. People leaving their signatures on has definately decreased recently, so thank you so much for that! It makes mine and Marie's job a lot easier. Smile

I have copied the relevant section from the board guidelines sticky at the top of the forum for your reference. The full guidelines can be found here --> http://www.pregnancy.org/bulletinboards/showthread.php?t=12266

Thank you all for reading and thank you all for your understanding in keeping this board a safe haven for all of us in grief. :giveflower:

"uropachild" wrote:

  • Signature & Avatar Guidelines

    Signatures

    This is of paramount importance. It is essential that you read the quote from Missy below and understand why we do not allow signatures on this board. Even those signatures with no 'sensitive' material in them must be removed for the reasons outlined below.

    If you leave your signature on any posts it will be removed. If it is left on a few times you will be contacted by a mod and asked to observe the guidelines and remove it. This is for the comfort of all members. If you have any questions please PM Sarah (uropachild).

    [quote=MissyJ]I posted this on the poll thread regarding signatures but felt it was significant enough that it should be posted to everyone's attention. Effective immediately we do request that signatures are not posted on this board at this time. Let's see how things go and reevaluate as needed in the future. Those signatures that are posted from this point forward will be removed.

    Read on below for a more in-depth explanation:

    LOSS - TTC - PREG - CHILD Mentioned

    Hi everyone,

    I had a wonderful post written out earlier today -- took me over an hour to compose -- of course with about a million interruptions. Go to hit submit and my lovely computer froze... again... ARGH!! :banghead: Now is the first time that I have had to get back to it again.

    Ok -- First I want to thank all of you for taking the time to express your feelings. This is a large reason why I was anxious to *hear* your input. We take each and every one of your thoughts into consideration as we make our decisions. As we serve as a support community, and never more so than here on this board, that does not always mean that majority rules. Instead, our attempt is to remain focused on the board and it's purpose in serving the community.

    I think that what makes this particular board different is that it can be seen as a *haven* of sorts. There is no way, IRL, we can avoid those things that we find painful or hurtful. When you have suffered a loss it can often feel as if the number of women around you that are pregnant or have recently had a baby must have multiplied 10 times over. Certainly, throughout this site would be no different -- we are afterall a "Pregnancy" related community and many of you found your way here when you first were researching pregnancy.

    Here, though, it is my opinion that we offer an escape. Surely, there are days that we are feeling *stronger* and those posts about "PG MENT" are ones that we open eagerly. There are though some days when those walls of emotion come tumbling back in. Speaking personally it could be often triggered about anniversary dates of the loss(es) or edd's that weren't fulfilled. Other times it could be triggered by something as simple as a commercial with a child the same age as one of my losses or a song on the radio. The healing process is ongoing... and cycling in and out of those stages is normal.

    What I am thinking of is how we can respect those that are having a tough time some days, but... at the same time allow members to continue to build their signature with the ability to have their TTC journey, u/s, losses, pregnancy news, and children all within it. Someone pointed out that signatures change often. When they do, they do automatically update throughout the site. Posts here stay here longer than on some boards and while a signature may be ok today, when updated it may include pregnancy news, etc. That said it is my opinion that our best bet is to simply disallow signatures completely on this board and instead stay focused on the support given and shared.

    Briefly, let me clarify a couple of things:

    • No, we will not ever ask for usernames to be changed.
    • Yes, we still would ask that if you post here regularly that you do choose an avatar that keeps the sensitivities of the board in mind.
    • We do not have the ability to turn off the signature feature for one board only. If you use the quick reply option you must manually uncheck the option for your signature to be included.
    • Yes, since this is a place where many of you do grow close, we hope that you will continue to post threads concerning your pregnancy, ttc, and children. We do ask that you continue to designate them appropriately (as you have been).
    • An FYI -- Did you know that we do also have these boards available for you: TTC after a Loss, Pregnancy after a Loss, and Parenting after a Loss.
    • Suggestion for the board: I realize that we currently have a thread dedicated to our stories and another for pictures. Why not start a "Memorial Tributes" thread? Here you could share those wonderful angel signatures that you have... or perhaps offer a poem or special remembrance dedicated to your loss. I would further suggest that you also send these to be included in our Pregnancy.org Memorial Wall and allow it to become a permanent fixture of the site.

    My personal wish is that this was never a question.. that there was no need for this board to even exist. Still, I could never be more proud of the type of support that exists here. I don't believe that anyone else could truly understand just how significant hearing the words I'm sorry can be. Regardless of our personal journeys towards a path of healing doing it surrounded by those that care and understand truly makes a difference.

    If you have any questions or concerns please let me know.

    Smile Take care,
    Missy (missyj@pregnancy.org)

    Since Missy posted the above statement several members have expressed the desire to be able to show their name, counter boxes, poems etc. within their posts so that they can perhaps indicate the type of loss they have suffered and also when this loss occured.

    For this reason we have come up with a way of being able to post a "fake" signature. The instructions are as follows:

    "uropachild" wrote:

    :question: How do i make a "fake" siggy?

    When you make or reply to a post there is an option on both the quick reply posting box and the normal reply posting bit where the box is ticked next to 'Attach signature'. You just need to remember to untick that box each time you post.

    This will remove your signature, so if you still want to display your counter box and website link etc. that usually show up in your siggy you can create a "fake" signature. To do this...

    :book1:

    1. Go to your profile by clicking the link at the top of the page, highlight the text within your signature box and copy (ctrl and c).

    2. Open a text application (Notepad is a good one because Word tends to take longer to open) and paste the signature text into it (ctrl and v). You might find it easier to wrap the text (go to Format and make sure there is a tick next to 'word wrap')

    3. Remove any text that relates to a charting or pregnancy ticker or baby picture etc.

    4. Save this file somewhere that is easy to access like your desktop.

    5. When you make or reply to a post uncheck the 'Attach Signature' option as normal.

    6. Copy and paste the text from your Notepad file into the main body of your post.

    Et voila! You should now have something that resembles a signature without actually being one. :thumbsup:

    The beauty of doing this means that you can express yourself and others can see relevant information about you and your loss without using a signature and risking upsetting someone at a later date when it might change to include a pregnancy ticker or a baby picture.

    Sarah, www.sarah-chambers.co.uk
    Co-Host of Pregnancy & Infant Loss Support

    • Avatars

      Avatars cannot be removed in the same way that signatures can. Missy had the following to say about them:

      "MissyJ" wrote:

    • Yes, we still would ask that if you post here regularly that you do choose an avatar that keeps the sensitivities of the board in mind.

      Keeping the sensitivities of the board in mind, would, to me, mean that perhaps a baby or belly picture (or something similar) in your avatar isn't appropriate. By instead putting some pictures in the angel pics thread our members can choose to look at them when they are ready.

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    Sarah
    Mum to...
    :angel2: Zane. Delivered by c-section at 41 weeks. Died due to Vasa Praevia. 16-17 October 2006
    :angel2: Ada. Delivered by c-section at 25 weeks. Her heart just stopped. No explanation. 7 September 2007
    Co-Host of Pregnancy & Infant Loss Support.

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    TY fo rthe reminder Hun!

    Diane