I am so sorry for your loss and the timing for your brother as well, you will find the courage to get through.
I'm sending big hugs your way and will keep you in my thoughts and prayers. You will have happy days again.
Oh love! I'm sure it will be hard for you, i wont lie. It will get easier though i promise.
I know that my loss was different, but in my experience i couldnt bear to look at or talk about the babies on my birth board while they were all still newborn because it reminded me of Zane. But, now that they are all older, they're so far removed from what i had with him that it doesnt bother me as much. I still look at them and think that is where he would be now, but it doesnt affect me in the same way. Maybe it's due to the passage of time or maybe it's because they are older now and not newborn.
Of course it is different for you because you know your brother and his GF in real life, but maybe once the baby is born you wont feel as sad? Because you relate to a lost pregnancy perhaps once the baby is a few months old it wont be quite as bad. Like i said though, maybe by that time it will be better because so much time has passed.
I hope that you feel that you can be honest with your brother and he will understand if you dont want to see his GF for a while.
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I am so sorry
A little about me.... Back in Nov of 2005 was when I lost my second baby. We were suppose to tell family on Christmas Eve (I would have been 14wks) ...Instead, we kept our loss to ourselves.
So, Christmas eve came around....This was a hard day for dh and I. To make it harder?? my SIL announced she was pregnant...that very same night we were suppose to make our announcement ... Talk about a knife in the heart...
Anyways...hearing about CJ was hard for me...I kept thinking about my little one. They would have been about 7-8 weeks apart...
Now?? He gives me hope I have a pic of him as my screen saver. He is 10 months old, and just the cutest thing..
I promise, your feelings will change as you heal.....Until then, don't push yourself...Give distance where/when it is needed. In time, you will be able to handle more.