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    Default People say the STUPIDEST things!!!!

    We lost our baby almost 5 wks ago and I was talking to one of my good friends last nite and I was telling her about how I was surprised that a certain person had sent us a sympathy card and you know what she said............ FOR WHAT?????? OMG!! I was like well probably for our baby that just died!!! I couldnt believe it!! Why must people say all the WRONG things!!! I told my DH that the next person who told me "O youll have more kids" I was going to slap them!! Its like ok well you pick which one of your kids you would like to give up, it will be ok because you will have the other one!!! Sorry I just get so upset sometimes!!!!

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    I am so very sorry you are having to deal with these comments...

    I know that some people just don't know what to say, so they say the wrong thing!! And others just won't get it, if they have never lost a child...

    That said, I don't think you need to silently listen to hurtful comments. If you could find the right words..I would say something if this happens again.



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    Oh honey I so know what u mean. My very strict grandmother did not come see me in the hospital after I lost my daughter and actually said to my face that this was the BEST thing to happen because I am not married and she didn't like BD anyway!! OMG I had to remind myself......chill out......she's 86.....but man oh man was I pissed.

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    (((((HUGS)))))

    What a mean thing to say! Sorry you are having to deal with people being innsensitive jacka**es.


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    I am so sorry you had to listen to that. People often say stupid things, even if they have the best of intentions.

    I agree with Marie though, that you dont have to stay quiet about it if someone upsets you. It's not wrong to voice that you are upset in situations like that.


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    I know what you mean and I feel your pain and anger!!!

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    I think people can be hurtful without even meaning too.....I think people still avoid the subject with me and it has been over a year since my loss- I would rather my baby be acknowledged than forgotten.

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