It's hard to know how to deal with the situation.
I have a busy-body neighbour who I've been avoiding since my loss. The one time she cornered me she told me all about her loss and how she 'knows exactly' how I feel because her loss took place at the same point in pregnancy. But she doesn't know. I can tell by how she talks to make it all about her that her pain and mine are not the same...neither more nor less, but not the same.
I made the mistake of putting my FF chart up on Facebook so my sisters and BF could look at it. She lurked and found it (whoa, I put it up YESTERDAY and she found it between last night and an hour ago). She said that she saw I had started charting. I told her I was because I'm the kind of person who does better when she knows what's going on with her body. I start to worry and stress when I'm NOT charting because I don't know. I told her we weren't TTC yet...I was just keeping track of things.
She told me, "Oh good. When I had my loss my doctor told me not to try for at least three months. I agree with her too...any less than 3 months and you're not giving that baby the respect it deserves."
WTF? I changed the subject and quickly made my goodbyes. I know she wasn't thinking, but that kind of judgemental statement is not what I needed to hear. DH and I have decided that after my next AF (first post m/c) we will let nature take it's course. I didn't tell her that though. Sigh.
I wish people would think a little bit, that's all. Thanks for letting me rant.