I am absolutely devestated. I went for my 10 week scan yesterday morning to find out my baby had died at 8 weeks 5 days.
I knew something was wrong instantly as the sonogropher didnt say anything for ages and i couldnt see a hb. I thought i was going to pass out when she said those words ........... 'its not good news im afraid Angela'.
I was referred to the early pregnancy unit where i was left sitting in the corridor for ages. The nurse who then called me in to go through the next steps was so unhelpful. She just kept staring at me and not really saying much. She had a couldnt-be-bothered attitude. Nothing was explained to me. I was told to either wait and see if i naturally loose the baby or if i want an ERPC (evacuation of retained products of conception) - a D & C i guess. And she said i must tell her by 1pm. Nothing of this procedure was explained to me, no leaflets, anything.
I had a chat with a couple of friends who have had this. And my sister has spoken to one of her colleagues who work in the hosp. It seems im thinking by everyones advice it to go ahead with the procedure. I dont think i can bear to carry my baby knowing it is dead inside me. Now im crying.
I cant believe i have been carrying my baby for 2 weeks and not known - i still have all my symptoms. I even poas the other day for 'a bit of fun' (ugh) and it was showing an immediate beautiful bfp. There is no mistake on the u/s though.
I dont know how im going to get through xmas, im booked in for Monday for the d&c. Can anyone tell me how im going to feel physically after this? What is the recovery time?
My poor bf when the sonogropher said those words. He is so upset. I dont think he can fully understand what im going through tho. He is being so supportive and of course would give anything to change what has happened but i think at the moment his main concern is for me and what i am going through and and going to have to endure.
Please please can anyone advise me how to get through this. It feels like my life has been completely smashed and i dont know what to do.