Hi ladies. On Thursday I had an US to check dates and because my midwife could not find a heartbeat with the doppler the day before although my uterus measured 13 weeks. She wasn't worried she thought there was just too much "stuff" (probably a kind way of saying fat) in the way to hear it. Anyway, I got the the US and we found that the baby's heart had stopped beating, probably fairly recently. It was all really surreal...first of all, after I got the news, the Dr. made a rude comment. She asked if I had been having bleeding and I said no and that it was odd because I had bled with all my other pregnancies and she replied "I guess you'll have your bleeding later with this pregnancy" like it was a joke or something??? I thought it seemed very flip given the circumstances. She is not my regular Dr. I have a midwife, but the Dr. reads the US.
After they read my US and told me the baby had no heartbeat, they (meaning the DR and the US tech) asked me go back out in the WAITING ROOM! I couldn't believe it. Is that normal? To get this terrible news and have to go back out to the waiting room with pregnant moms and newborns? I had to wait in the waiting room for for about 30 minutes, so not a short time at all and my DH didn't think anything bad was going to happen at the US so he had dropped me off and taken our children for ice cream while I had the appt (our clinic/hospital is 45 minutes out of town for us) so I was all by myself trying to compose myself and take in the totally devastating and shocking news, I didn't even know how to react. Then I was asked to go to the Dr's office who had read my US. We talked for less than three minutes regarding my options, she suggested a DC very, very briefly described the procedure and told me she'd probably have an opening Tuesday (after I told her I could not do it the next day because it was DS birthday).
Anyway, the whole way I was treated at the clinic made this so much more painful, not that it's not bad enough on it's own. I just feel like the baby I lost was nothing to them and is totally disrespected. I had a loss before this, but it was earlier, I think having that first loss has somehow softened the blow of this loss, not that I don't feel horrible and sick about this loss, it's just that I think my innocence regarding "loss" was gone and I knew it was a possibility...although I still can't believe it has happened.
I do have a question for anyone who has had a DC....the DR told me she will numb the area "Down there" and I will also have an IV with a sedative in it. She asked me to get to the hospital 2 hours early and that I'll have to stay 1 hour after the procedure.
So questions about DC...how badly did it hurt? Could you see anything they were doing? I don't want to see anything. I just want to be as OUT as possible. How did you feel afterwards? Can I expect to do anything the next day? How badly did you bleed? I know it's a painful thing to discuss, and I understand if you don't feel like you can answer these questions.
Thanks very much.