Pretty Much Official (TMI)

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Pretty Much Official (TMI)

I started spotting on Friday night and then it turned to light bleeding yesterday and today it's been like a period. I've passed a couple of small "masses" so I'm pretty sure that I have or am miscarrying. I am not surprised, but I am feeling very beat down about it all.

I have an u/s tomorrow morning, which I will be going to alone - which is fine since I'm 99.9% sure of what they will (or will not) find. If it was still up in the air, I would have wanted someone to go with me.

I didn't cramp at all, but now have some very small/light cramping.

So, now we go through this stage - again. Although, I am glad I don't have to do a D&C again (hopefully).

Sigh...... Sad

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Sorry to hear you are going through this. Hope you are doing okay. Take care of yourself.

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So the u/s showed a fetal pole, but no yolk sac and no heartbeat. It measured at 7 wks and 2 days, and I am supposed to be 8 wks 4 days. I am still heavy bleeding with clots.

My file has been sent to the loss division to help me through this - first of all deciding if I want to just let it happen naturally, if I want to take the Rx to help it along or the least desireable - the D&C. Of course we dont' want to to the D&C since it seems to be coming out on its own.... I don't know.

Then we have to wait for 2 periods before we can do another IUI.... it seems so far away Sad

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I am so sorry. Hugs. Be good to yourself, does the loss division have counselling? I was able to access an Early Loss counsellor and the program has helped me so much.

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Thanks. I think the program is the same as the one you had - it's from Edmonton. They are to be calling me today. I wish I had had this when I had my first m/c in 2006.

"mom2robbie" wrote:

I am so sorry. Hugs. Be good to yourself, does the loss division have counselling? I was able to access an Early Loss counsellor and the program has helped me so much.
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"Farmer21" wrote:

Thanks. I think the program is the same as the one you had - it's from Edmonton. They are to be calling me today. I wish I had had this when I had my first m/c in 2006.

You are going to love Patti. She is amazing and has been such a support to me. I had to cancel my appointment (she is at Lois Hole) yesterday with this stupid stomach bug but I did talk to her on the phone. She has had 3 losses of her own so she really gets it.

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sorry about your loss

I am glad you can get counseling ...
I had decided to let it happen naturally when my OB told me "no heartbeat" but after few days of been a mess I called for the RX and before I took them the M/C happened on it own... It was very very hard emotionally for me and if we decide to TTC and I get in that spot again I will D&C... I know I can't go through what happen to me a month ago and no counseling of any kind available.

But as you know each women is different and you must decide what is the most PEACEFUL for you, i is already not an easy situation...

Magali

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I am so sorry for your loss. I am also glad you are getting some extra support. It is great they have that type of service. {{hugs}}

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"keops" wrote:

sorry about your loss

I am glad you can get counseling ...
I had decided to let it happen naturally when my OB told me "no heartbeat" but after few days of been a mess I called for the RX and before I took them the M/C happened on it own... It was very very hard emotionally for me and if we decide to TTC and I get in that spot again I will D&C... I know I can't go through what happen to me a month ago and no counseling of any kind available.

But as you know each women is different and you must decide what is the most PEACEFUL for you, i is already not an easy situation...

Magali

I did actually tell my DH last night that the only benefit to the D&C for me was that it was over with and I didn't have to see anything. He understood that and said he couldn't understand fully what I was experiencing and was guiltily happy that he didn't have to. I'm glad he was honest with me.

I missed the call from the clinic yesterday but since I get home early today I will be able to call them and get the ball rolling.

I feel sort of like the miscarriage isn't a part of me.... like it's an outside thing. I have so much going on I don't have time to think about it or feel sad about it. DH is off for a week now, so I'm hoping I can take some time to myself and let myself feel sad and cry.