reading material? (m/c ment) x-posted

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summerpeace's picture
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reading material? (m/c ment) x-posted

this past week i lost a baby very early on in the pregnancy. i'm a mother of two LO's and i need to be able to continue giving them the love and guidance they deserve while being able to still grieve. i have lost two others to m/c, but those were before having children. this is a very new and painful road, and i could use some advice. do any of you happen to know of any helpul books? all i am able to find are books about dealing with infertility issues and getting pregnant after a m/c. thank you for reading this, and for any help.

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I am so sorry to hear of your loss. :comfort:

There is a page here on preg.org which has all kinds of articles about loss: http://www.pregnancy.org/griefandloss.php

I am sure some will be able to recommend books that helped them. I do know there is one popular book called "Empty Cradle, Broken Heart" http://www.amazon.com/Empty-Cradle-Broken-Heart-Revised/dp/1555913024

I personally found this book to be a great comfort: http://www.amazon.com/Trying-Again-Pregnancy-Miscarriage-Stillbirth/dp/0878331824/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1225659364&sr=1-1 and it's called "Trying Again, A Guide To Pregnancy After Miscarriage, Stillbirth & Infant Loss."

Sarah.

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I'm sorry for your loss. I read "when bad things happen to good people". It was not specific about loss, but it a great book.

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I googled articles on grief after miscarriage. Some nights I stayed up reading articles all night, or woke up unable to sleep and read then.

I read a book called, "Gone Too Soon" It is written with an LDS (Mormon) perspective, but I think helpful to any Christian beliefs.

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thank you very much for the advice, i plan to make a trip today to pick some things up. i'm very sorry for all your losses, thank you again for being so welcoming to your board. i know i just jumped right in without any back story, i'm just still reeling from the shock.

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Hey Darcy,sorry to see you over here:(
My loss in June was also very early and hit me much harder than I had ever anticipated. The ladies both here and over at TTC after a loss were a great support system and helped me alot. I'm always here if you need someone to talk to.
:bigarmhug:

Alyson

Joined: 03/16/15
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I am so sorry for your loss.

I share your experience -- you're right: it's very hard to keep a brave face when you have living children.

Here are some very short, sensible articles on the topic, that might be helpful:

http://www.pilari.org/articles/12/1/It-Must-be-Easier-that-You-Have-Other-Children/Page1.html

http://www.pilari.org/articles/3/1/Youre-Lucky-You-have-Other-Children/Page1.html

http://www.pilari.org/articles/9/1/How-do-I-break-the-news-to-my-other-children/Page1.html

We all care about you, Darcy, and we're going to help you through this.

Great big bear hugs,
Nicole

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Im sorry about your loss. I hope you are able to find something that is helpful to you. Its hard to grieve when you just dont have the time or energy. Take a few minutes at night even and do what you need to do to heal.

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This is an older book, but a co-worker of my mom's loaned me the book Good Mourning.

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Thanks for this question ... i was thinking the same thing. I feel badly for my son because i let him go through this with me, knowing something bad might happen. He was so excited, and is now sad too. Sad I need to find something for me and for him as well, though my mommy sense kind of knows he just needs love, reassurance and me to be "normal" even though i am not because his little ecocentric mind cannot wrap itself around the fact that i need to be sad right now. Wink That much i have figured out.

Take care and let me know what you find and i will do the same.