Rough Day (death ment)

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Rough Day (death ment)

Today we had to go to the funeral home. We are having Gabi creamated. It was a mercifully short visit - we only had to sign some papers. The funeral home is very caring. They waived a lot of fees because she was just a baby. They also donated a small urn - it's pink with angels on it. I think she would have thought it was pretty.

It's just hard when it hits. Sometimes I feel ok, and then sometimes I am overcome. Having to go to a funeral home for my baby girl was devastating.

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I am so sorry for your loss. I have followed Gabi's story since she was born. She was such a fighter. I can't imagine or have any words to help you but please know I am thinking and praying for your family. Gabi touch so many people in her short life.

Hugs to you and your family.

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Unfortunately I remember the trip to the funeral home all too clearly. We too had our child cremated.

I am so very sorry for your loss and wish that I had some magical words to take the pain away. Unfortunately those don't exist. Again, I am only a pm away if you need someone to cry to or to scream at to get things off of your chest.


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We had our children cremated too. There's something so fundamentally wrong about picking out an urn or a coffin for your baby, it's almost unreal.


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Hugs hon. I can only imagine how truly horrible that must be.

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I'm so sorry for your family's loss (((hugs)))

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We lost our 4 angels all very early (8 ~ 10 weeks). I remember feeling so "empty" each time - I was so sad that we had no baby to hold, no baby to kiss and say good-bye to.

When I read your words, I had tears in my eyes. For I now realize that it must be so much harder (I think) to have to go to a funeral home.

I am very sorry for what you are having to go through right now. I wish I could help you more.

Big hugs,

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I am so sorry. I pray you have a strong loving support system around you at this time.

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I'm sorry. Let me know if I can do anything for you.

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We also had child cremated. Picking up his ashes and picking out an urn was a very difficult process.

I just want to warn you at how small the ashes that you get back will be. Our son was 5lbs 2oz and the amount of ashes could have fit into a matchbox. (The small size). We were told this was pretty typical.

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I am so sorry for your loss. You are in my thoughts and prayers!

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I am so sorry. I've followed your story but just couldn't post till now as we are going thru this too at the same time. The pain is so raw and there is nothing good to say other than you are not alone right now. Reid and Gabi are together watching over our families.

We just burried Reid the day before Thanksgiving so it's still fresh. If you want to chat... let me know.