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I just had a D&C on Friday. I was 9weeks 1 day. I went to my ultrasound on thursday and there was no heartbeat. I was due in December. We are so sad as I know everyone on this board is. I feel lost. I still find it hard to believe that I am not pg anymore.
I have an appointment with my Dr. next week and hopefully I will not have to wait to long to TTC again, I just want to be pg again.

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:comfort: I am so so sorry for your loss Sad

Know that we are all here for you. I can tell you the women on this board are so very supportive. Coming here often has helped me soooo much...I can't even put how much into words..

Please let us know how your doctors appt goes??


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I'm so sorry for your loss. You've come to the right place. *hug*
I hope that your Dr's visit goes ok, and that all is well, and you will be able to TTC when you feel ready for it.

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I am very sorry for your loss. :bigarmhug: I felt just the same as you - not able to believe that I wasn't pregnant anymore, and just really wanting to be pregnant again. I was also due December-ish (after my ultrasound, my date was moved from late November to December 5th).

What helped me a lot was coming here. I spent ages here in the first week or two. It really helped to be able to talk to people who understood what I was going through. Also, talk to your DH because you are in this together and you can help each other a lot if you open up about it. It helped me to read other people's experiences too.

I hope things go well at your appointment.


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I am truly sorry as well for your loss. I went through a loss similar to yours in February. I was only 7 weeks when we didn't see a heartbeat after seeing one the week before. I had a D/C a week later after holding on still hoping to see something. I found this board a couple weeks later and have found such support and help here. All of these ladies are wonderful and here for you with any questions or things that you just need to talk about. Or as said in a pp post, just reading what others share and have went through has helped me alot too.

Just know you can come here anytime. :bigarmhug:

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So sorry Sad

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So very sorry for your loss. We are here for you.


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Hi! I am new here but found most of your postings to be helpful. I just had my d&c yesterday after finding out on 5/2 that my pregnancy was abnormal. Dad is currently deployed to Iraq and even though I have a lot of great friends and family that have been supportive, it is really hard without him here. I have a hard time expressing myself to most people because I feel like they can't understand when they haven't been there.

To make matters worse, even though I am very happy for all of my girlfriends, the majority of them are pregnant so it is very hard to be around them. This is my first miscarriage and I feel like I did everything I needed to to make the best decision for me and my baby. I am devasted and really trying to make it through each day but I didn't realize how hard it was going to be.

Medically everything seems fine. The procedure went well and I have had very little bleeding or cramps. I won't get to see dad until September (I hope). Thank you for all of your postings. They are helpful to read and make me feel like I am not all alone. Take care.

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I know EXACTLY how you feel. It's been just over two weeks since I lost my baby and I still feel empty and in disbelief. I just can't believe that I'm not pregnant anymore. I have to focus on not thinking about it because if I do, I start crying again and I just can't handle the floodgate of emotion that comes with it. I keep the door to the nursery closed because every time I look in there and see that empty crib, I know that my baby isn't going to be in it. My husband and I are TTC again. I also just want to be pregnant again, I love how that made me feel, I even miss the morning sickness and I never thought I'd say that. I miss the excitement and the planning and the love and the expectations and the little talks I had with my baby. I never experienced anything like I did when I was pregnant and I want that back. I've never wanted anything more than I want to be a mom. It's what I was born to do. I can only hope and pray that my dream will come true.

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