scary dreams (miscarriage)

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scary dreams (miscarriage)

I lost my baby in June due to an incompetent cervix. Now all of a sudden I am having scary dreams about miscarriages. They are weird and very scary. Last nights dream was that the doctors told me it wasn't a cervix problem it was my fault. I should have paid more attention to my nutrition and my tummy. I woke up shaking and in tears. Have any of you experienced dreams like this and is it part of the healing process or do you think I am stuck in guilt?

Robin

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I do believe that it is part of the healing process. I believe that is part of our emotional self coming together with our rational self. I had horrible nightmares after losing Damien. I still do occasionally. The guilt is something that will be here for a while. I cannot say how long as I am still going through waves of grief and guilt. I also have my moments of "normality". I wish that I had some magic words to make it all better, but they just don't exist. Please, come here and let it out whenever you may need. I wish you peace.

shelly

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How awful! Like it isnt enough that our conscious is plagued with feelings of guilt and loss, our subconscious also has to make us feel that way! I feel for you hun. The dreams really arent the best. Sad

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Robin
How awful! I have not had any dreams or nightmares but I can empathize with how you are feeling. As if you don't think about your child enough as it is, now to be plagued with nightmares.

I know you already know this but here is no way that your m/c is your fault. You would never intentionally do anything to harm your child. Unfortunately as mothers I realize it is in our nature to assume the burden of guilt.

Thinking about you,
Antionette

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I haven't had any dreams like you mentioned, but then I am having trouble sleeping--either getting to sleep or waking up and then can't get back to sleep. I don't think I am getting enough sleep to dream.

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Thanks ladies. The nightmares are still continuing but they aren't as bad. I think I actually had a dream where I saw my angel flying, so it can't be all bad.

I know in my head I did nothing wrong, but how can you get the head and heart to be on the same page all the time.

Robin

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I've had some horrible ones! I hate it when they seem so real.

:bighug:

Hope they ease up for you.