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Hi there,
I have been thinking about you today. I really hope that you had a good day today and that your DD's birthday party went well. Just wanted to let you know you were on my mind.
-Kendall

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Thanks so much for thinking of me! DD's party was perfect, and my mom helped out in every way she could. We had about 25 people here including 8 toddlers, and there was so much chaos going on, I really didn't have much of a chance to think about my loss.
My MIL, FIL, SIL and BIL were all in town visiting from Texas for 5 days, and no one said anything about the m/c. I know others here have vented about how irritating it is when family and friends don't have the courtesy to even say they're sorry for your loss. I keep thinking about it and wondering why it is bothering me so much. I know it's an akward subject to bring up to somebody, but I can't help but feel like they just don't care.
My parents, friends and DH have all been wonderfully supportive, so I've been trying to focus on how fortunate I am to have them in my life. And of course, the wonderful ladies at preg.org!

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I'm so glad to hear that the party went well, hon!

I'm so sorry no one acknowledged your loss. I got really angry about that after my loss too becaue I felt like they were implying my baby never existed at all. In the end, I think it wasn't that they didn't care, they just had no idea what to say, and so they didn't say anything at all for fear of saying the wrong thing. Their motives are probably in the right place, just misguided. Either way, I know it hurts and I'm sorry.

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I'm so glad you were kept so busy! That helped to keep your mind off of your loss. I'm sorry about the IL's. Perhaps they felt it wasn't an appropriate venue but most likely they just don't get it.

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i'm so happy to hear that the party went well. And i know exactly what you mean by your in-laws, i had the same thing, but i wasn't my in-laws it was my own family, my in-laws have actually been a lot more supportive, which is weird.

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Im really pleased that the party went well, sounds like you all had a great day!

Sorry your in-laws did not have the courtesy to acknowledge your loss, how insensitive! Famillies, they just never act the way we need them too! Thank god for friends. Im glad you have supportive mum and dh, that will help you alot.