Should i ask for a photo?

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Anngie60's picture
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Should i ask for a photo?

I was so devestated when the sonogropher told me my baby had died, i dont really remember much else apart from that horrible distraught feeling. I was laying in bed last night and wondering perhaps i should have asked for a picture. I didnt even look at my baby on the screen, everything was such a blur. My sister works at the hospital so im wondering should i ask her to get me a photo? Part of me really would like to see my baby, i think it may help the grieving process. But another part of me knows it will upset me incredibly and will it put me back to square one? I feel i owe it to my baby to see him/her so she/he is not just forgotten. What do you ladies think?

CamelNoodle's picture
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I think you should get it. You don't have to look at it now, but when you are ready.

I've never heard of anyone wishing they didn't have a photo, just wishing they did.

Janel

Joined: 03/16/15
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I agree. I didn't ask for a print out at my last ultrasound either, and I so wish that I did and now it's too late. All I have is my memory of the perfect-looking little baby that I saw on the screen.

Tamara

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I would totally get a picture. It will bring tears to look at it, i'm sure, but i think it is important to have as much as you can to connect you with your baby. Smile

I don't think that you will regret asking for a picture, but you may regret it if you don't get one.

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Angie
It may not be possible to get a photo as they don't usually keep u/s images stored. If that is the case don't beat yourself up about it. You were in complete despair and the last thing on your mind was a photo.

If you are able to get a u/s photo that would be great but if not please know that you made the best decision possible based on the information you had at the time.

I hope it works out.
Antionette

Joined: 05/04/06
Posts: 250

I agree- if you are able to get a photo I would. Don't be overly surprised if you cant tho. If thats the case I'm sure there are a lot other things that you can remember your baby by.

Karen

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Joined: 01/03/07
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Angie, my Dr asked if I wanted a photo...and I'm glad that I did take it. Its all I have to remember my little bean.

Hugs

Heather

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Joined: 12/06/07
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I would ask for one-and if you don't want to look at it now at least you will be able to when you are ready. I'm going to try to get one of my last appointment-I was too upset to think about it at the time and am kicking myself.

angelchristian's picture
Joined: 12/16/07
Posts: 24

Definetly ask for a picture. It will be comforting to look at it (maybe not yet, but it will!)
Hugs!

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--Annie

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CHILD MENT

I agree with the PP, I wish more than anything that I had asked for a photo, even though at the time I didn't want one... now I wish I had something to look at and remember my bean. I find myself looking at my DS's 11 week u/s pic just to remember what my bean looked like when it passed.

Anngie60's picture
Joined: 01/28/07
Posts: 630

Hello all
Well, i spoke to my sister and she rand one of her colleagues who has very kindly printed off 2 photos of my baby. My sister will be able to collect them from her work on Monday so i'll post again once i have them. I am glad i am able to get them now, i think if i dont i will regret it. Thanks for your help again ladies x x x

shellyhudson's picture
Joined: 01/13/07
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I too think that you should try to get it if you can. As others have said, you don't have to look at it now. It will be one of your most treasured possessions later on though. It was months before I could look at the pictures of my boy. Now I look at them regularly. I have one framed and on my desk at work. Sadly, they are the only pictures of him I will ever have. I am sure that you can relate to the sentiment that I am trying to get across. I wish you peace and serenity with whatever decision that you make.

Shelly