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So Girls....

I have made my decission on the whole " friend" situation after talking the pros and cons of being her friend over with my spouse. I have decided in the best interest of me to officially cut ties with her for my husbands, mine Anna ( the cat she tried to steal by having her son walking out the front door with her umderneath his shirt- till I heard my little baby girl) and my other cat "Cosmic Creepers" (if any one is ever seen Bedknobs and Broomsticks his real name Snickers well he answers to both.)

I cant have the stress of her pregnancy, the her of asking for all my stuff, and not even respecting my wishes or my house rules when they are over here- after they leave its a disaster zone. With my husband deploying next week for around 17 weeks I cant have the stress of her always on my mind. When she starts badgering me I get in horrible moods and take it out on my spouse and we end up in the biggest fights. Also this women has no brains and she keeps saying to me I have 8 kids I know what I am doing- Oh really I beg to differ. I also just remembered something according to her she has 18 miscarriages. My spouse and I are having a hard believing her shes sort of a storyteller/ fibber. I think its way less.

I have really appreciate all of our honest opinions as it has really helped me come to my final decision.

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Glad you came to a decision. How are you going to make her understand (especially when DH is being deployed)?
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Well i'm glad you came to a decision chick. I think that it sounds like you're doing the best thing in that situation.

About her m/c's... well, she could be telling the truth. From what i've heard you say she is very promiscuous, and having 8 kids with another two on the way means she's fertile. Maybe it's true. If it is, and she has different partners, then it's very sad. It's not the threat of pregnancy that she should worry about, but rather contracting some horrible STI and possibly dying and leaving those kids without a mother (in the extreme).

On the other hand, i know there are people who lie about stuff like that. Sad Sad.

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"tlmommy" wrote:

Glad you came to a decision. How are you going to make her understand (especially when DH is being deployed)?
Antionette

stop talking to her or tell her I have been busy lately

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"uropachild" wrote:

Well i'm glad you came to a decision chick. I think that it sounds like you're doing the best thing in that situation.

About her m/c's... well, she could be telling the truth. From what i've heard you say she is very promiscuous, and having 8 kids with another two on the way means she's fertile. Maybe it's true. If it is, and she has different partners, then it's very sad. It's not the threat of pregnancy that she should worry about, but rather contracting some horrible STI and possibly dying and leaving those kids without a mother (in the extreme).

On the other hand, i know there are people who lie about stuff like that. Sad Sad.

Sarah
Mum to...
:angel2: Zane. Delivered by c-section at 41 weeks. Died due to Vasa Praevia. 16-17 October 2006
:angel2: Ada. Delivered by c-section at 25 weeks. Her heart just stopped. No explanation. 7 September 2007
Co-Host of Pregnancy & Infant Loss Support.

I prefer to never know how many actual pregnancies she has had because it seems from day to day it differs.

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Not that is any of my business but I think you have made the right decision. You do not need that added stress. I do think you should be honest with her and cut off the relationship straightforward. Avoiding her phone calls and her stop bys might add to the stress. Just tell her you are uncomfortable with the friendship and that you are going to severe ties.

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just wanted to say i think you have completely made the right decision, she definately doesnt sound like what a friend should!

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Good for you!! You have to look out for you and your "furbabies". I think that not answering calls is helpful, but if the situation presents itself I think that you have to lay it out straight to her. I don't think that trying to sugarcoat it will work. I wish you all of the best and pray that the seventeen weeks goes quickly.

Shelly