Hey ladies. :giveflower:
I was wondering if i could call upon your wisdom to help ease the mind of someone i know. I have a friend who i have known for aaaages, like 8 years and he has been TTC with his girlfriend. I don't know his girlfriend very well, but i work with her and her SO is a great guy so i want to help if i can.
Unfortunately she has suffered a miscarriage this week at around 7 weeks. She had a scan last week and there was a heartbeat, but she was bleeding and at a follow up they discovered that the bean had passed away.
The thing that bothers me is that the tw.at of a medical professional actually told her that she should have taken it easy! The poor girl has been off work because of the bleeding, and i don't know her full personal life, but i am guessing that what this person has told her is completely unfounded and at least really, really hurtful!
We briefly texted and i told her that what they said is a load of tits and not to let it bother her. I also did a google search afterwards and although it said that there is a link between stress and m/c, the stress would have to be like something major - like a death or something.
I remember from reading posts on here in the past that people say that there is nothing at all you can do to save a pregnancy if it's going to miscarry. The doctor or whoever was wrong to put that on her wasn't he? What do you think?
I'm going to link her to this post once i get a couple of responses. I don't think she's a member of preg.org, but i'm just hoping it will make her feel better. I know from going through loss myself that you feel enough friggin guilt about it, without doctors telling you it was your fault!