Thanks girls! And a good thing tied to a bad situation!

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Joined: 10/17/05
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Thanks girls! And a good thing tied to a bad situation!

I want to thank you all for all your well wishes, thoughts hugs and prayers they mean alot.

Well Dh flipped out today while talking to him. He told me to contact the redcross. I didnt even think about that, but i did it per his request. He will be home in 24-36 hours now and since the deployment is almost over and how he is reacting he has to contact REAR-D with right now a 75% chance he will not be returning to Iraq. It sucks that this is the reason he is coming home, but i am happy that he will be by myside. After how he acted today, he will definitly need to see a counsler and i am going to push it, i have never heard him break down as he did today. I was strong until i heard him and continued to be strong for us. it broke me down a little bit, but he doesnt know that and now i am busting my butt to get my house ready for him to come home to us. D&C is scheduled for next tuesday, i suspect the day of the d&c is when i break down and it becomes more of a reality.

Thanks again girls for all your support!

Joined: 11/19/05
Posts: 456

I am glad your dh is coming home....But I am so sorry that he/you are going through so much Sad ...You are doing the right thing by encouraging him to see a counselor though.

D&C day is usually very hard...I broke down when I got home, after the D&C...Prior to that, it was like I was in a fog....That said, everyone is different.

Please keep us posted on how you/dh are doing :bighug:

Marie

Joined: 03/16/15
Posts: 53852

Oh, I never go to post after the M/c was confirmed. I am so sorry for your loss. Men have the strange way of acting about a loss, even a pregnancy one. Is there a chapel or a military type program with the chaplains where you can get counseling? My husband took us both to one after our first loss and the second loss and its amazing how men can open up when someone is there giving spirtual guideness. I recommend saying something like I would love it for you to come with me and help me get through these emotions & heartbreak that I feel. If he still says no I wouldn't push it until he is ready. He will come to his own terms with the loss. Mine even with counseling took around almost 8 months to even want to try a again.

Joined: 03/16/15
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I'm sory for you loss, butglad DH will be home for you.

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Missy

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I am so sorry you're having sa hard time. I think that it's a good thing your DH broke down. I know it's hard seeing our men cry, but i've heard of so many that either bottle it all up or they dont feel like they can cry in front of their wife because they have to be the strong one. Counselling is a good idea, and i hope that he will consider it for you both.

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Joined: 10/01/05
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I'm so glad your DH is coming home, but I'm sorry it's under such difficult circumstances.

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Joined: 04/15/06
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"uropachild" wrote:

I know it's hard seeing our men cry, but i've heard of so many that either bottle it all up or they dont feel like they can cry in front of their wife because they have to be the strong one.

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That is how my DH is, and it makes it even harder on me, I think. It makes me feel alone in my grief. I wish, at times, that he would open up. Sad

I pray that all goes well with your procedure. You have our prayers and support.

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