i m/c one of my twins about a month ago (15.5wks) and it's starting to hit me pretty hard. i want to grieve but with my kids, my dh, and my healthy baby that's still inside of me i'm finding it really hard to. i'm just really having a hard time coping with all of this and think that talking to someone would be a good idea. i think i'm getting depressed and if so, i want to do all i can to be ok for my family. i've never had a problem with PPD but i could see myself heading in that direction with the birth of my baby. knowing that he's supposed to have his brother there is going to be very hard and i don't want to be sad on that day.
has anyone ever talked to someone? and if so, did you find it helpful at all?
I am sorry. Pregnancy hormones are hard enough to deal with. Adding a loss on top of a still healthy pregnancy must be really hard.
I would call and speak with your OB. I think it is a smart idea to get a game plan together before your baby is born. I can only imagine how torn you are and many times a counselor can help you acknowledge your feelings. Keeping everything inside is not healthy for either of you. I saw (still see for my divorce) a counselor. There is no shame in talking to someone, it does not make you weak.
I have worked with women with PPD for a few years. PM me and I can let you know of resources in your area and help put a plan together.
I'm so very sorry for the loss of your little one I can't even imagine how split in two you must feel, and I think it's really great that you're being proactive about your feelings. I talked to a therapist after the loss of my little one. It helped, but I still felt so lost.
When I began to talk to other women, who had experienced loss, that was really helpful. Also, I talked to my doctor and ended up taking medication to offset the anxiety. You're only human, and you're dealing with so much... Aside from all this, you also have family to take care of ect., and I sincerely hope that you're doing okay.
I am sorry to hear this. I think talking to your doc is a great plan. Try and sort your head out whilst you have the mental space.
Good luck with your pregnancy. xx
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