Today is a good day

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Today is a good day

Wanna know why? Well, I'll tell ya'...

Last night, DH and I had a wonderful talk. And I'm realizing that while our losing our baby devastated us, it's also bringing us closer together and we're communicating better than we ever have. I'm not saying that every day is a bed of roses-- some days it's nothing but thorns and weeds. But there is a difference from how it was before and it's all good.

I've also started a journal of affirmation statements for myself. Each day, I write down what I'm feeling, whether it's sorrow or anger or happiness. I'm doing this because I'm perfectly within my right to feel whatever the heck I'm feeling at that moment. And doing so makes me feel stronger.

And... we decided last night, that once we get the okay from my OB, we're going to start TTC as soon as possible.

Ka'

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I'm perfectly within my right to feel whatever the heck I'm feeling at that moment.

This is probably the best, most encouraging thing that I've heard in a really long time. You are absolutely correct!!! I wish that more people would come to understand this.

I think it's great that you are being so positive. I really think that helps.

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Way to stay positive! I also found that having m/c and infertility has brought DH and I closer together.
Please keep us posted while you ttc. I will keep you in my prayers for a quick BFP and a happy and healthy nine months.

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Thank you for sharing that. It helps to hear encouraging things.

Good luck with TTC.

shelly

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Thank you for your encouraging words. I hope your next TTC journey is a short one. My DH and I are also planning to try again when my system is ready. :bighug:

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-Julie

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What a great attitude. I love the idea of writing things down and not feeling bad about however you feel. I feel like I'm on a freakin' rollercoaster lately.

That is great that you and dh are communicating better. Just this morning I was thinking that my dh is really the only one who understands me. I was feeling like crap all weekend when he was working, then when he got home I immediately felt better. We have become so much closer through this whole ordeal, that I can say that is one good thing that has come out of it.

Thanks for the inspiration!

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I think you have a very healthy attitude -- you're darn right that you have right to feel whatever you're feeling! They're your feelings, and they're okay, and they don't have to make sense to anyone else. Journalling is very effective for this: I do it too. I love it.

I also drew closer to DH after our first m/c. I actually got closer to a couple of other family members too. This kind of loss is so horrific, but every cloud really has its silver lining.

I hope you get pregnant again asap!!!

Enjoy your good day, and I hope you have many, many more.

Cheers,
Nicole