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    So, it has been a week since my m/c. Tomorrow is my D&C follow-up, which was originally going to be my initial pg appointment. So, that makes it even worse. I think that I am losing my mind. I just spent a half hour on the phone with my ex, crying and telling him that we could work things out (even though we more than likely can't). I just feel so lost and alone right now. Nothing makes sense anymore and every single day is a struggle. I am afraid of having a nervous breakdown at work tomorrow. My goal all week has just been to make it to Friday....anyways, just needed to get that off my chest.

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    Hey, I know how you feel. Those first few weeks after the loss are so hard. Everything feels like a struggle and you try so hard to act and look normal around people it's just so tiring. Just try to give yourself time. Don't feel bad if you cry a little at work or if you need more or less alone time then usual. Just let yourself feel the way you feel. It's harder then it sounds but try to take it one day at a time. I'm so sorry for your loss and for all the follow up garbage that goes with it.

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    Ok, breath honey. Keep taking things day by day, or minute by minute if you need to. Not only are you dealing with the loss but all those hormones as well. You can do this, you are a strong person. If you need to call your ex and talk, then do it. I think we all go through a period where we need to do anything to keep going until we get out feed under us again. Not to mention, tomorrow is Friday and you made it. Sending hugs. You will get your bearsing soon and things will start to get better.

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    I'm so sad for you right now honey. Just one day at a time is all you need worry about. I cannot imagine what its like to go thru a breakup at the same time. Is there someone who can be with you, at least on the weekends? Or a friends house you can stay at?

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    (pg mentioned)

    Yes, I made it to Friday. One big accomplishment down. And I even went out after work today. I am back at home, alone, but am trying to just relax. I am new here so I really don't have friends to hang out with. But I have some DVD's to keep me company.

    In other news, I had my follow-up appointment today. It actually went well. The doctor said that everything I am feeling is normal. He also said that there is no reason why I can't try again to have a baby. He said I am perfectly healthy and that being able to get pregnant is the biggest hurdle to get over. Unfortunately, being that my SO and I broke up, there will be no trying again soon. I think that is the worst part for me right now. I want to try again, and soon. Is that crazy of me?

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    No, it is not crazy at all...I was in much the same position, I had the d&c and my SO and I had just broken up. I'm also in school (medical school), so right now would be a crazy bad time to have a baby. But a part of me really wanted (and kinda still wants) one. I got a kitten.....gives me something to love, and a distraction. If you like pets, and if where you are allows them, they are a great distraction and a source of unconditional love...

    Hang in there sweets, one step at a time, and don't feel bad if it becomes one moment at a time. Make it as small as you need so that you can take it. Sometimes that is all the best of us can handle.




    Anyone ever feel like the song of the moment is Alanis Morissette "Not as we"?

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    Quote Originally Posted by moheesviolin View Post

    Anyone ever feel like the song of the moment is Alanis Morissette "Not as we"?
    I don't know that song. I have had "How Do I Live?" stuck in my head for days.

    And no, I am not a pet person, at all. That was one thing me and my ex had in common.

    I hate mornings. I always feel so hopeless. And now that it is Saturday, the lady downstairs is home with her kids. I can hear them giggling and being all happy. Do parents know how lucky they are? I suppose they do.
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    I just wanted to jump in and say that I'm so sorry Leah. I hope the last few days have been a little easier for you, but for me it took quite a while before I started feeling like even getting out of bed in the mornings. I also noticed all of the other expecting mother's and baby's around. It's not crazy for you to want to conceive again, I think that is a perfectly normal and maybe even expected reaction.

    Hang in there!!

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    I'm so sorry you went through this m/c and D+C as well. I had my D+C yesterday and it was honestly the most traumatic, painful experience of my life.

    If I hadn't experienced so much pain and blood loss last night, I think I'd want to try again right away too.

    It's an inspiration to me that you made it through the first week.

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