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    Thanks everyone. Yes, I made it through a week. Today is the first day that I have not cried (yet, there is still time). I admit that I am leaning on my ex for support. He is trying to be understanding and supportive. Better late than never I suppose.

    Things are getting better, but there are reminders every day. I am apartment shopping in my new town, and now looking for a 1-bdrm as opposed to a two-bedroom. Would it be too hopeful to at least look at the 2-bdrms? Hmmm...I wonder.
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    Baby steps!

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    Back-sliding again. I feel so alone. I was already in a bad mood after work and then saw two pregnant women on the way to the Metro. It always makes me wonder what they did right that I did wrong. Why did this happen to me? Did I do something to deserve this? I know I shouldn't think like that but I can't help it...

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    Honey, you did nothing wrong. I know that is such a common question and I have heard all the typical responses. You know "God's will" and "it was not meant to be". I think they are all crap. Made up by people who mean well but do not know what to say and are not comfortable talking about death.
    Plain and simple, it sucks. It sucks big time and it is not f*cking fair.
    It does get better. I do not think we ever forget, but the pain does lessen with time.
    Allow yourself to cry. Sending hugs.

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    I am sorry for your loss. As Missy said the pain does lessen in time but the heart ache tends to go on forever. It has been over 2 years since my first miscarriage and I still think about her and long to hold her again.

    Give yourself time and know that some days are better than others. You are not alone, just look at all the responses and new "friends" that you have.

    Be strong.
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    I don't know if it's any consolation, but I feel very similarly.

    I keep wondering if it's because I played tennis and overexerted myself, or because I had some negative thoughts about this pregnancy (which I obviously regret big time now that I'm no longer pregnant).

    I do agree with Missy though that it is just not f*king fair. There's nothing we can do about it. I also agree with Robin that we need to give ourselves time.

    My mom's friend called to talk to me about my m/c experience, since she had a very similar experience 31 years ago and she said she still remembers all the details to this day and she's still sad about it around the would be due date.

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    [QUOTE=photogalv;7059574]I don't know if it's any consolation, but I feel very similarly.

    I keep wondering if it's because I played tennis and overexerted myself, or because I had some negative thoughts about this pregnancy (which I obviously regret big time now that I'm no longer pregnant).

    I do agree with Missy though that it is just not f*king fair. There's nothing we can do about it. I also agree with Robin that we need to give ourselves time.

    My mom's friend called to talk to me about my m/c experience, since she had a very similar experience 31 years ago and she said she still remembers all the details to this day and she's still sad about it around the would be due date.

    Oh, and she had 3 children after that

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    I'm so sorry - it's hard, I know, and I can't imagine having a break-up on top of it. Like the others have said, give yourself plenty of time. Treat yourself well in the meantime - you deserve it

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