I recently had a loss and was due in March. I know that they say to wait a cycle before TTC again, but for some of you who have had losses what were the reasons? I have not visited the doc yet as they were booked up at the 2 week recovery cut off, so it has to be the 3 week date. We have STRICT times that we can and cannot have kiddos because of DH's work schedule (youth director) and his trips. Unfortunately I would probably not have another cycle till the end of Sept which puts me into July I believe, which is exactly when DH is gone for the misson trip every year! I dont want to be having a baby by myself! I am also a teacher and its critical for me to start the school year if I were to teach at all that year due to the age group I work with (2 yr old Preschool). I COULD technically come into the year after christmas break per say, but it wouldnt be fair to the kids. Nor would it be fair to start the year, leave for half, then come back. And really I dont want to wait a whole 'nother year ish to have another kiddo at another ideal time of Feb-May. I guess my question is can we TTC NOW? Thanks for the imput ladies!
Did you have a d&c or miscarry naturally? My doc advised to wait 2mo from my d&c, IMO to give my uterus time to build up a healthy lining after being suctioned, if that makes sense. I know many ppl are told there is no need to wait, and honestly, I tend to agree. The reason we did wait is because in my mind if I got pg again quickly and m/c, I would question myself as to if I would have waited, would I have still miscarried. I wanted to not give myself any extra guilt feelings, if that makes sense.
That said, I know of many women who have miscarried, not waited, got pregnant that first cycle, and delivered a perfectly healthy baby. I think it is mostly up to you and dh, if you feel emotionally ready, then only you can judge whether you are ready, any one else, not really their business. Good luck!
My doctor told me to wait at least 1 complete cycle, if not two or three. His reasoning behind it is that the uterus needs time to heal. He said that the more time I gave my uterus to heal, the more healthy of an environment that my new pregnancy had to grow. Goodluck to you.
You are in a bit of a sticky situation, aren't you?
I think after a D&C, it may be best to wait, but if the alternative is to wait for many months...I dunno. If you can handle it emotionally, you could try and figure that if you did miscarry again, at least you had a chance at a baby this year. Two m/c in a row are pretty devastating, though. (I've had 3 in a row and it totally blows.)
On the other hand, there's a good chance you may ovulate late this cycle, so the 3 week check-up may not be too late. Your cycles could be pretty messed up after a m/c.
I think the d&c effects to uterus a little more than a natural miscarriage, because they are either suctioning it or scraping it, which gets more out than a natural miscarriage, if that makes sense. And Jennifer is right, my cycles after the d&c were both 36 days, whereas I am normally a 27day cycle girl, so the three week post op appt may be fine. Fast and pray about it, and if both you and dh feel okay about it, go for it.
I've experienced both natural m/c's and a missed m/c (that required a D & C). But there was no difference between what my doctors recommended each time. My GP always wanted me to wait 2 to 3 cycles. On the other hand and also each time, my ob/gyn just wanted DH and I live to 'normally' again -- to be blunt, just to make love when we felt like it and not worry about cycles, waiting periods, etc.
When I finally did what my ob/gyn suggested, we conceived faster than after any other m/c ... and without even trying! (Only 3 months after the m/c). I don't know -- some people believe we get pregnant the easiest when we simply aren't trying to.
This all being said, what the PP's said makes sense to me -- the D & C does involve scraping (though very gentle) so there's bound to be some healing that needs to take place. I guess that's one reason why some doctors want us to wait.
I'd like to suggest that you feel free to do what you and your DH feel is right -- whether you want to wait or not.
I hope for you that you get pregnant again soon, and that the baby is born (beautifully healthy and strong!), and hopefully at a time which is good for you. But if the baby is born at a time which is not ideal, well -- you'll still be utterly blessed. And this happens to people all the time, so take heart: whenever a baby comes along, the parents always figure out how to make it all work just fine. Have fun TTC!
Thanks gals! We've decided to try now. BUt there is NO pressure, and we're just taking it easy. Same as before, we'll just be happy if it happens when we want it to We're not stressed about it, but its always an extra bonus if it goes according to OUR plan