Within the last hour or so, my cramps have became rather painful. For those of you who had to miscarry naturally at home, how long after your cramps became painful did you actually pass everything? I just feel kind of on edge. I wish I knew what to expect. I've been spotting-(turned to light bleeding) since late Sun. night. Any advice? Can I expect something to happen tonight or probably not?
I miscarried naturally last night. It came on pretty fast. From start to finish it lasted 9 hours. The painful cramps started at 6:30pm and I started really bleeding shortly after that. By 8pm, I was having severe cramps and the bleeding was heavier than I've ever experienced in my life. I got kind of scared because I kept passing large clots (tissue and everything else) and it was a really weird feeling and sensation. I'm almost positive I passed everything because it was a lot. Pain wise, I never felt like I couldn't handle it, but I def. needed to breathe through the pain. At one point I was worried that I was losing too much blood. I'll spare you all the details, but I felt like it just kept gushing. By 3:30 am the worst was over. I passed one last large thing and like a switch, my cramps subsided and the bleeding slowed down. It was a life-changing experience. It's something I'll always have memories of.
Unforunately, my DH just couldn't handle all of this and really wasn't there for me. He stayed downstairs and even left to run an errand at one point. I pretty much miscarried all by myself. He went to bed and never voiced any concern that I might be losing to much blood. The doctor had told us to go to the ER if I filled more than 3 pads in 3 hours. If we were erring on the side of caution, I should have gone in. By 3:30 I felt dizzy and light-headed.
I woke up this morning feeling really angry at him for not being with me while I was going through it. He pretty much just shut down and couldn't face what was happening. I know that time will heal our wounds, both physically and emotionally. We talked a little bit ago and he seems so depressed which is so unlike him. I know he is hurting, but I can't help but feel abandoned. This has been such an emotional nightmare for both of us so are emotions are running high. Obviously, I'm better at expressing them.
I am going in for an ultrasound tomorrow morning to make sure I passed everything. If not, I'll have a D&C on Friday. I highly doubt that's going to happen though.
Thanks for all the advice. I'll KUP.
UPDATE#2- I went to the doctor again today and she checked me and I am still dilated. She could see some more tissue on my cervix so she removed what she could see. Yeah, that hurt like a b*tch. I'm going in tomorrow morning and if my cervix is still open, I am having a D&C within the hour. So far this evening the cramps have lessened dramatically and the bleeding has FINALLY slowed down so I am still hopeful I can avoid the procedure. Please keep me in your thoughts.