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Vent (pg , Loss ment)

I just don't understand maybe I am thinking about it today because today marks the two week mark. I had such great/bad symptoms. I had bad M/S all day lond up until 12 weeks then it would come and go. My boobs were so sore eveything that says that my pregnancy was going well. We had 2 U/S's where we saw the heartbeat right away. It is just hard because I have a picture perfect first trimester. Then right when I got into my 2nd trimester we lost her.

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Your story could be mine, hon.

My first trimester went swimmingly. Had sonos at 6, 7 and 8 weeks and saw & heard the heartbeat in all of them. Morning sickness was more like 'round the clock sickness'. I was tired *all* the time. My boobs were sore and enormous!

Then right around the beginning of week 11, I woke up one morning and felt great. Had my energy back, no gagging into the nearest sink, and people told me they thought I had that 'glow'.

Turns out that was right around the time my baby died-- and I didn't find out until a week or so later.

I'm hoping we will get some answers with the test results.

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Big hugs to you, sweetie... you're not alone.

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Same here, was SO freakin' happy to be in trimester 2! Even though I was even enjoying the sickness in the first three months - I think because of my previous m/c I was just happy to be sick and pregnant!

We saw the LO at 12 weeks and he/she was flipping around like crazy, I loved watching every second of it. Then 3 weeks later, the LO measured 1.5 weeks behind, which was scary. Right after that she/he died, as there was no heartbeat at 16 weeks.

Are they doing any tests for you? Hang in there, thinking of you and feel free to vent! I know I have some horrible days, and some totally ok days. But this board is SO great for getting the anger/hurt/frustration out.

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(PG, m/c, loss ment)

I think the worst part about all of this is the uncertainty. I have twice now been in that 1% or 5% of pregnancies that end in loss. With my son, Lance, it was only something like 1% of all shoulder dystocias (which are rare anyway) end in the loss of the child. Now, this recent loss, the doctor told me that once they see the heartrate, there's only a 5% chance of m/c. Now I fear both the 1st and the 3rd trimester and I can only hope that nothing in the future gives me reason to fear the 2nd.

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"cabin_dweller" wrote:

Are they doing any tests for you? Hang in there, thinking of you and feel free to vent! I know I have some horrible days, and some totally ok days. But this board is SO great for getting the anger/hurt/frustration out.

We go back to the doctor on Monday so I am hoping they have some kind of answer for me.

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Tori, Im just wondering if the doc mentioned a subchorionic bleed ever with the us? I know a girl who had a subchorionic bleed that became out of control and she lost the baby at 17 weeks. The baby was healthy. The mom was healthy- no medical issues at all, but unfortunately the bleeding got bad and I guess blood in the uterus like that will cause it to contract. Ask your doc if there was any evidence of that in your ultrasound. Because according to this person I know, the bleeding CAUSED her mc, instead of the mc causing the bleeding like was my case when I had my loss. I hope you get answers. Not knowing is hard. Im kicking myself for not having the genetic testing on my last baby. I would have known the sex and maybe would have known what went wrong. kup. ((((HUGS)))) amy

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I am so sorry for your loss. I miscarried on February 1. I was only 8 weeks along, and I never made it to my first ultrasound appointment, so I don't know what it's like to see your baby moving and hear the heartbeat one week, and then find out that there is no heartbeat the next week. I can't imagine how painful that must be. I hope that you are able to get some answers from your doctor on Monday. Getting some closure might help you begin to heal. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

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((HUGS!!))
I'm sure it's hard to make it past that magical 12 week mark and then have a m/c. I know from experience that it's hard to have multiple "normal" ultrasounds, be reassured, and then go on to m/c.
I hope you get some answers at your doctors appt.

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It sucks big time, I lost my baby at 2 months. turns out it was because I was the only one cleaning my cat's litter tray. I got a dose of toxoplasmosis that was lethal to my baby Sad

I'm so sorry for everyone's losses.

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I am so very sorry for your loss. I can totally relate to your feelings.

Shelly