WAY TMI m/c update (CHILD MENT)

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WAY TMI m/c update (CHILD MENT)

So it's done. Just like that. I would have been 11 weeks today.

I had contractions that got stronger, longer and closer together, just like when DD was born. I was going to go into the hospital because they were really starting to worry me, so I decided to time one of them. It lasted 5 MINUTES!! But then the placenta and everything came out.

I bled quite heavily for a couple of minutes, then the bleeding slowed right down, just like when DD was born. It felt like I'd had a baby. I desperately wanted to take a shower, which is exactly what I did right after DD's birth, too. It's weird how similar the two experiences were.

Then I cleaned up, threw the bloodied stuff into the laundry machine, and I'm sitting here drinking hot cocoa like nothing happened.

It's like the twilight zone. What the heck just happened??

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It is quite surreal how you just lose your baby and then have to do "normal" things.

Are you able to take a few days off of work to recover?

I know you have been waiting for your body to miscarry but it still is devastating when it actually happens. I am so sorry for your loss. Email me or PM if you need to talk.


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Thanks Antionette. Sometimes I feel like I'm the only one this is happening to. Like everyone else has a D&C and has their baby under general anesthesia.

I'm a SAHM, so I don't really get days off, but at least I can lock myself in the house and pretend the rest of the world doesn't exist.

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I am so sorry for your loss. You are not alone. I actually delivered my daughter as well, in the labor and delivery room not at home. The only reason I had a D/C was because the placenta would not come out. I was 16 weeks. It is very much like delivering when you have a miscarriage that far along that is why I hate the term. Anyway I hope you heal both physically and emotionally. Lean on us anytime you need.


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Hon I am so sorry. It sounds completely like your just in shock. Everyone deals with it in their own way. I found out two weeks ago that there was no h/b and it wasnt until today when I actually m/c that it hit me. You are not alone and dont ever forget what a wonderful group you have to lean on. ((HUGS))

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I'm so sorry (((HUGS)))

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I am so sorry. Sad I did read on here a while back that having a m/c is just like labour, only too early.


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I am so sorry, sweetie.

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So sorry for your loss. Sometimes I feel like the world should just stop for my pain. I went through the full labor and delivery with my baby boy, Christian, on 12/9 in the hospital. When I was admitted they started me on Pitocin to get the contractions going. I delivered the baby and then actually had to push for the placenta. I pray that when I go to the dr today, he verifies that the entire pregnancy is out.

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I'm so sorry for all your losses. I've been through the same and now I'm just waiting. I'm dreading it so much...my first loss was at 11 weeks and extremely awful and painful...my second at 6 weeks and now this one. I'm 7 weeks and my doctor just told me that my hcg is not going up and I just have to wait for it to happen. Its the most traumatizing thing. It is definitely not one of those things that gets easier. I can't help but look at my son (who is perfect) and think about what could have been Sad

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So sorry for your loss. We went in for a U/S and this time she couldn't find the heartbeat. It has just stopped, no-one knows why. The heartbeat had stopped 2 weeks before and I still wasn't m/c naturally. I was given meds that day to induce the m/c and I was having horrible 'contractions' for the next two days...they were so much worse the second night. We went in the next day to make sure it was complete and it was, no D&C or anything. She told me then that what I felt was a lot like labor. So it makes sense that yours was too. My thoughts and prayers are with you.


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I'm sorry ((HUGS))

I hope you are able to take it easy for a few days.


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I am so sorry. Big hugs coming your way.


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I'm so sorry, sweetie. I did have a D&C when I miscarried, but that's because I didn't think I was strong enough to handle it. I admire your strength and courage and am so sorry you're going through this. It IS very surreal. I remember going back to work the following day, just like nothing had happened. It was awful.

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"squirlyj" wrote:

Sometimes I feel like I'm the only one this is happening to.

Ashley, as I read your description of what you went through my chest tightened and it was hard to breathe because you what you described so resembled when I had my m/c. I am so so sorry for you hun :bighug:

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Aw hon, I'm so sorry. You're so not alone though hon--you have all of us.



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